Monday, May 5, 2008

Does he think I'm an idiot?

I honestly think Tim thinks I'm an idiot. I don't know if it's a "man thing" or what but he always has to challenge me somehow or state facts that he doesn't think I know...I can't discuss politics with him, I can't discuss really anything in the news with him without him becoming extremely opinionated and just downright irritating.

For instance, I'm on a couple message boards and we've all been discussing the latest news on BPA....I mean, who hasn't??? I've even heard other moms at the park talking about it. So I've been reading various articles about it and I was stunned to learn that we had several sippy cups, plates, bowls and plastic tupperware that were not BPA-free. The other night I literally took all our stuff out of the kitchen cabinets and sat down with each item at the computer to find out whether it was BPA-free or not. I tossed the stuff that contained BPA and the stuff that I couldn't find any proof was BPA-free. Tim questioned why I was throwing it all away and when I told him, I sensed he was rolling his eyes.

Today at Target I bought some new sippy cups to replace the ones I threw away so Tim says "do they have BPA in them?", no....does he REALLY think I'd go out and buy new sippy cups without having researched which ones contain BPA and which ones do not?? So I said "I checked and these do not have BPA in them" and then I went on to tell him some of the stuff I've been reading about this stuff and how irate I was that here we were trying to the best for our kids when we were actually poisoning them with this chemical. And we were actually washing the bottles and sippy cups in the dishwasher, using them in the microwave....all without having any idea the harm we were causing.

So he starts debating with me about it..."well, it hasn't actually been proven that it's harmful...they're just suggesting that it might be..." and then he goes on to say that it's actually a preservative...yadda, yadda, if I don't know what BPA is and the harm that it can do. I said to him that the studies I've read that show that BPA is harmful (and the fact that Canada is now banning all items containing BPA) is enough evidence for me to want to not use anything containing BPA. Again, the rolling of the eyes....I just felt like he was belittling me and basically telling me that I was going overboard. It just pissed me off...he always has to have the upper-hand, always has to be right, always has to "prove" that he knows more. I ended up flying off the handle and yelling at him those exact words "why the hell do you always think you know best?" I couldn't believe that he's still in denial that this stuff could really harm our kids. I'm not taking a chance....I don't think I'm over-reacting at all. If anything, accuse me of being overprotective but don't accuse me of over-reacting, not when it comes to the well-being and safety of my children. Does Bella have to grow a freakin 3rd eye before he believes that BPA is bad for our kids? Do our kids have to endure the same excruciating pain we dealt with when it came to our fertility? Not if I can help it.

So yes I've been complaining about Tim an awful lot lately but this blog is a great place for me to vent. It helps me sort things actually helps me calm down before I explode and hit him in the head with the heaviest frying pan I have.

Not to get off track but Cole and Bella were supposed to be in bed asleep and I heard them on the stairs so I told them to go to bed. Now they're both at the top of the stairs staring down at me. Bella said "I'm scared of my room" and Cole says "me too, I'm scared of my room too". They both have a string of lights on above their bed, they have a nightlight on in their room, and their bedroom door is open so they can hear us downstairs....I said "what's in your room that's scaring you" and they both looked at each other like "quick...think of something that's scary" they both said "The Hulk...we're scared of the Hulk". Well, I can never accuse these kids of not having any to put them back to bed...

1 comment:

Joy said...

Why on Earth would we even take the chance with our kids safety when it's only a matter of buying a few new cups,'s a no brainer! Sorry he's having no brain....
I find my blog is an excellent outlet for my frustrations and helps me keep myself in a better place mentally. I figure if people don't want to hear me bitch they don't have to come to my blog LOL
Good luck with the bedtime drama LOL

I figure that if the children are alive when my husband gets home at the end of the day, I've done my job.

----Roseanne Barr

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