Monday, July 21, 2008

The difference between Moms and Dads....

It seems that whenever I think Tim has done something completely idiotic, I'll mention it to a friend or two and inevitably they laugh and say "oh, my husband has done that too". I'm not sure if that makes my husband normal or if all our husbands are just idiots. I'm mostly referring to things he's done as a father and it just makes me realize how different most moms and dads are from one another.

Let me just say for the record that Tim is a wonderful father. He's very involved and he's stepped up a lot since Garrett and Landon were born (well, he kinda didn't have a choice really). The kids adore him. Plain and simple. Why do the kids adore him? Mostly because he's a great dad...he's affectionate, he tells them often that he loves them, he reads them bedtime stories and he wrestles with them on the floor. But the kids also adore him because he lets them do things or get away with things that I would never do. It's not odd for me to hear almost on a daily basis from Cole or Bella, "But Daddy let's us do it" which makes me just a huge Meanie in their eyes.

Here are some examples of just how different he and I are as parents:

Tim: Lets the kids put the keys in the ignition and start the car. He thinks it's perfectly big deal...he claims they'll never figure out how to actually DRIVE the car.
Me: Are you freakin kidding me?! Cole and Bella have been conspiring with one another since birth and I've learned to NEVER underestimate those two. I keep telling Tim that it's not safe for them to even play in the car (which he lets them do while he's cleaning the garage), let alone starting the car. I've said on more than one occasion, "Have you never heard the story of that kid who always played in his parent's car and then one day he locked himself in the trunk and no one knew where he was for hours and he suffocated to death?!" to which Tim always says "sweetie, we have a mini-van and an SUV...there's no trunk for them to suffocate in"....he totally misses the point, once again.

Tim: He gives the kids snacks BEFORE breakfast. Does that make any sense? It doesn't to me. Why not just feed them breakfast?
Me: The first meal of the day should be breakfast...not a handful of goldfish.

Tim: Thinks if he puts the kids to bed as late as possible that they'll sleep later in the morning.
Me: Yeah, that always goes over like a fart in church. We put them to bed late and they end up waking up earlier than usual and then they're cranky all day worries for him though because he just skips out the door to go to work while I'm left with 4 whiny, cranky, tired kids.

Tim: He thinks there's nothing wrong with letting the kids watch Sponge Bob and other inappropriate cartoons (Scooby Doo went over great...Cole and Bella had nightmares for days that there was a mummy in their closet). Hey, at least they're all sitting still doing something quiet.
Me: Where's the educational aspect in cartoons like that? Sure I let my kids watch tv but things like Sesame Street, Super Why and Hi-5 all teach them things at least.

Okay, so those are just a few of the examples that shows how different Tim and I are as Mom and Dad. And now it's probably easy to see why the kids adore him so much. Daddy let's them start the car and play in the car just for fun, he lets them stay up late, he lets them watch anything they want on tv and they can have a snack virtually any time of day with no problem. I'm married to Disneyland Dad.


joy said...

Yes, men are stupid (sorry daddies) When I was in the hospital having Lincoln my husband sent Adrian to school in the same clothes 2 days in a row. I was so embarassed. I made him write a note to the teacher explaining that I just had a baby so they knew it wasn't me. I have many more examples...

Mommie Mayhem said...

LOL men cant live with them cant live without them. Its a never ending battle !!

Cynthia said...

I hope it makes you feel better to know, it's not just your's all of them! Mine has the same "stay up late, sleep later in the morning" theory. After 3 years of seeing it fail with our daughter, he still is determined to try it with the boys. Ugh. Oh well...I guess we have to balance each other out somehow - a little practicality and a little bit of excitement. Keeps things interesting!

Kim said...

I can so relate to your post, especially the goldfish crackers before breakfast (they're the go-to food around here, and it drives me crazy when my husband and other kids give the twins goldfish crackers instead of feeding them properly).

And the TV thing . . . oy! It's only going to get worse, because if your husband is anything like mine, he won't think there's anything wrong with letting a SIX YEAR OLD watch Jurassic Park!!

I figure that if the children are alive when my husband gets home at the end of the day, I've done my job.

----Roseanne Barr

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