Thursday, November 20, 2008

Kate Gosselin, you are no longer my hero!

I'm addicted to all those TLC and Discovery Health shows, especially the ones that have been featured recently about "amazing families". They recently did a show on the pregnant man (which, I'm sorry, still kinda freaks me out everytime I see pictures of his naked pregnant belly...AND he's pregnant AGAIN!), a female couple who have 2 sets of twins together and then, of course, there's always the Jon and Kate, Plus 8 shows that I can't help but watch.

I watch Kate Gosselin sometimes in complete awe...and sometimes she makes me feel encouraged and reminds me that children are a blessing, no matter how many you have (or how many came to you at one time!!). And sometimes I watch her as she cooks organic meals from scratch for her family (although it's been rumored that she has a personal chef who cooks for the family) and I feel completely inadequate, thinking to myself, "If she can cook organic meals from scratch for her EIGHT children, I should be able to do it for my FOUR children". Personally, I kind of like when she has meltdowns on the show or when she gets mad because one of the kids got paint on their shirt because it makes me realize that she is human. She's not perfect, as much as the tv shows sometimes reflects her to be.

The other night, there was a show on TLC called "Twins, Twins and Sextuplets". It was to air right after Jon and Kate, Plus 8 and I kept thinking it had to be a story about 3 different families. But no....it was about Eric and Betty Hayes who have 2 sets of twins and sextuplets. I can't imagine why I've never heard of them before....apparently, they've been all over the news and on major shows, like Oprah and Good Morning America.

Of course I had to watch it and I was immediately enamored with this family. Not only are all the kids fun-loving and adorable, but the parents have such a great sense of humor. They showed the family just hanging out at home and also running errands, like to the grocery store. They just seemed so....well, normal. Even with 10 kids....3 sets of multiples....they seemed so calm and in control. In the beginning, the mother talks about how she transitioned from having 2 sets of twins to having sextuplets and she said something like, "I just figured we had already done it twice....it really wasn't that bad". She never complained and she was able to make light of her situation, even during the stressful times. Her husband, at one point, said "shoot me" in a joking manner.

What really impressed me is that the father works outside the home while the mother stays home with the 10 kids. Some are in school and she spends that time during the day doing tons of laundry and cleaning...she said it's never ending. She seems very organized and makes it actually look kind of easy. I don't know if she has any outside help but they didn't mention any, except for the volunteers that came over initially and helped with feedings when the sextuplets had just been born.

Now, Kate Gosselin is pretty awesome in her own right but I somehow feel inadequate when comparing myself to her, which I know I shouldn't do. I think most mothers compare themselves to others...it's a way of testing ourselves to make sure we are measuring up, doing the best we can for our kids and not missing out on anything. I had to keep reminding myself that Kate Gosselin has tons of help...someone helping her with laundry, volunteers to help with the kids, someone to travel with them on vacations, and her husband now stays home and helps her because they are reportedly getting paid something like $65,000 per episode.

I guess, in the end, I could identify more with Betty Hayes than Kate Gosselin. Kate always seems to have an attitude, seems to have a "I'm better than you" quality about her. Maybe she's not like that in real life but they certainly portray her that way on the show.

As I watched the Hayes family go grocery shopping, and shoe shopping with all 10 kids, and all the while Betty is quizzing them in the car about what the colors of the traffic lights mean (instead of yelling at them to be quiet), they had earned my respect and admiration. From one fellow mom of multiple multiples to another (even though she outnumbers me by sextuplets...I could NOT even imagine what they must have felt when they found out they were having 6 more kids all at once), Betty Hayes is my new hero!

22 comments:

Doré said...

I don't know how you do it with 2 sets of twins... so how she does it with multiples totaling 10 kids is beyond me!!

Don't ever feel inadequate as a mom when you see those shows... you are a great mom and there is a ton of stuff that goes on behind the scenes on those programs that we will never know about!

Leslie said...

Hey, it's not too late -- maybe you could still have sextuplets!

Leslie

Creative Junkie said...

I've never heard of them either! I'm going to go check them out.

As for Kate ... I've never been a big fan of hers, for reasons I won't even begin to get into here.

And hey ... just six more kids and you can have your own show!

Cynthia said...

I saw the same show and thought the same things as you!! I never "connected" with Kate to start with and Betty Hayes just put the icing on the cake. Let's not forget that besides having three sets of multiples, she has a disabled child. This family was so likable and so believable. I'm glad you posted this!

kristi said...

Even though I like the show "John and Kate Plus 8" you are so right! They are making tons of money, they just went to Hawaii, are always taking those kids someplace cool and have tons of help. She said once that even the camera crew helps out all the time. It makes me a little jealous because a trip to the movies for us is a grand thing, that doesn't happen often!

Michele S said...

If you knew everything I knew about Kate, you'd vomit. She's been a member of the TC for YEARS. Blech. I just vomited. I never watch TV, but I might check out this new show. I'm hearing great stuff about it.

twinmama said...

I am so glad that I have DVR now! (A slight luxury for us, but hey, it is free for a little while, take advantage.) I will have to check this show out. I like Jon & Kate Plus 8 - I actually get a kick out of them arguing...don't know why...maybe I need help...but this new show seems to up the stakes quite a bit.

I also like 17 and Counting. The Duggar Family is just so...happy...I like happy.

(I am not sure why I have used so many ellipses is this comment...) :)

mrsbear said...

Kate annoys me a touch, a lot of their "life" seems a little staged, and she's kind of condescending. 65k an episode, blows my mind.

ParentingPink said...

I think any woman who has that many kids at homes deserves some sort of an award! LOL Seriously. It's amazing to watch some of these moms in action. And yes, I'm jealous of Kate too sometimes, but we all do the best we can :-)

Tess said...

I couldnt see myself with twins. I had to have my kids six years apart!

Heather (How to be a Woman..?) said...

I didn't even know that show existed! I can't wait to check it out. Even with two young non-twins I always feel guilty when she makes her kids fabulous salads and they actually EAT them.

When's your show coming out?

Connie said...

I think that Kate is a perfectionist and worries too much about what other people will think. I can't imagine what she did when she found out she'd be on TV. She has to have some kind of help and they have to earn a lot of money from the show. Ever see their friend's home? It's like a palace!

Farrah said...

Ummm...the pregnant man just gives me the heebies...just not right...how do you explain that to the kid when they get older?

Kate said...

I'm with Leslie - maybe you should try for sextuplets. I couldn't even imagine. Right now I can't even imagine having two kids!

And yeah, I do often wish I had a camera crew around here to help out once in a while.

Semi-Slacker Mom said...

What about Michelle from 17 kids & counting. She's way too "happy" with all those kids.

Supermom said...

Yuck, she was never my hero.
I watch those shows too!!!

I hope u are well.
Michelle

Elizabeth Channel said...

I want to see that new show! She does seem so down-to-earth. (Just like you!)

Arlice Nichole said...

Wow! I have never heard of her either but I'm going to have to check out this show. I have four kids: 9, 6, 1 and 2 months. Love John and Kate Plus 8.

Anonymous said...

The Hayes family is an inspiration! The huge difference between Kate and Betty is that Betty actually enjoys her children! She and her husband have an awesome sense of humor, are loving towards each other and have mutual respect. You just can not say the same for Jon and Kate. I really hope they make this family a regular series on TLC and dethrone Ms High and mighty Kate!

Anonymous said...

I don't know why are you talking about Jon and Kate making 65k per episode because do you guys think that the Hayes are not getting pay for it, too. That is just how Jon and Kate got started. Do a couple of episode,and now the making money because of us. I pretty sure they did not get pay 65K in the first episode. If people are willing to see it, TLC is willing to paid for it. I wish both familly the best.

D said...

Every mom is amazing! Don't ever feel like it's not enough! I'm not a big Kate fan because I feel like she treats Jon like the kids and he's a grown man. I mean she said once she was surprised he hadn't left her and every time I see her bellow at him I'm tempted to say,"Well, keep that up and he will leave." I just think that these shows are sort of cool because it displays family dynamics but if you have to belittle your husband and children on TV maybe there's something wrong that's not being examined!

Anonymous said...

I have really enjoyed Table for 12. This is my new favorite TLC program! I watch it with my 10 year old. I love the way Betty and Eric are with their children. They both seem to enjoy and understand what it is like to be a child. In one episode Eric and Betty are doing dishes and one of the little boys asks for a glass of water. Eric gets it for him and the child says something like “what, no straw?” You can see that Eric is back to the dishes, and maybe thinks for a sec about saying no, but looks at the kid and that face and he wants a straw and then Eric says something like “What, OK, here’s a straw.” I just love the whole 2 second interaction. The kids are just kids, and the parents seem to let them be kids. Their house looks like a house filled with kids. A happy home! What a concept! I love it so far.

As the kids on Jon & Kate Plus 8 have grown, I'm not so much a fan anymore. It started a while back when Kate pushed three or four heaping laundry baskets full of the little kids clean clothes out to an older woman that comes by every week to fold laundry. I wondered when Kate was going to start folding her own laundry. From there, I got tired of seeing the little kids only dressed in matching clothes, hearing Kate freak out if they were spilling ice cream on themselves or getting dirty. The house is always spotless and I hardly ever see a toy being played with. What do these children do all day? But in fairness, I think you have to admire Kate for all she did to managing 8 small children (the twins were young when the babies were born). I never could have managed her life with that many children. Never! And while I HATE (a word I seldom use) how she belittles Jon on TV, I think it comes from her need to be perfect and control everything around her. We also have to remember that Jon and Kate were young parents of 8 small children. Betty and Eric were in their late 30's when their 6 were born. I do think that makes a difference.

I figure that if the children are alive when my husband gets home at the end of the day, I've done my job.

----Roseanne Barr



 
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