Friday, January 16, 2009

They seek and they shall destroy....

Whenever we have company over, whether it be friends or family or someone coming to our house for an appointment, I greet them at the door with, "Hi there, come on in....sorry about the condition of our home". Most people who visit us totally expect to find toys all over the place. They expect to see dishes piled up in the sink. They expect to see at least 3 baskets of unfolded clean clothes sitting on the family room floor just begging to be folded and put away. And they expect to see me with a glass of wine in my hand...okay, not really...but they have come to expect to see the worst when they come over. Most people don't mind....some have even said, "oh, come on, how bad can it be?". Then they come further into our home and just shake their heads in pity.

Sure, people tell you when you have kids that your life will change. They tell you it won't be easy. They even tell you that your marriage may suffer horribly during the first 5 years of having children. But no one ever tells you how your children will absolutely destroy everything in your home....all things sacred, like having the walls and windows free of dirty handprints and carpets the same color as the day they were put down, will never be the same again. About a couple months ago, we were considering putting our house on the market and taking advantage of the market and buying a super inexpensive home that was much larger than the one we have now. But after 1 day of trying to get our home in order for the realtor to come assess our house, I gave up and told Tim "face it....we are never gonna be able to sell this home until we put about $30,000 into it just for repairs and then why bother selling the home if it's tip-top condition". He agreed.


Here are some pictures to show all the havoc and destruction my children have caused:

They pulled down these curtains about 6 months ago. I still haven't bothered to fix them. Seriously....why bother?


I'm not sure if it can be seen in this picture but the panel covering the light on the far right side has a crack in it and the panel in the middle is completely missing. Now you may wonder how little children could possibly break light panels that high up. Trust me, it's possible....especially with my children. Let's just say that Tim has learned his lesson about letting the children throw balls in the house and leave it at that.


These are 2 drawers in my kitchen that are plastered with random stickers. Most of the drawers in the kitchen look like this. Even our fridge is adorned with stickers.

Most of the blinds in our home are broken. Usually because one of the kids is desperate to look out the window and instead of opening the blings, they just rip a little piece off. Nice.





This is a picture of one of the walls in our family room. I told Bella she could color with markers one day....ON PAPER! I remember being very firm about telling her that markers are to be used only paper and nothing else. Guess she had to test out that theory....she traced her foot on the wall. To this day, I still cannot get that damn marker off the wall. I've even tried Mr Eraser. Someone was over one day and asked me, "why do you have Africa drawn on your wall?" and I said, "why don't you ask Bella?"


These are the vertical blinds in our kitchen. Notice they've been pulled off, one by one. Tim has finally said to me, "let's just take the blinds down and put up curtains". I said to him, "Why? Then they'll just be more intrigued and try to destroy those too".


So yeah it looks like we're living with a bunch of wild animals. While I wish I could be in 4 different places at once, it's just not possible. Having 4 pair of eyes would be nice. Stuff like this usually happens when I'm busy doing something, like changing one of the little twins' diapers or cooking dinner and thinking they're all playing so nicely upstairs in their rooms. I was telling my sister one day about all this destruction and she just laughed and said, "that's so typical....don't you remember we refused to buy any furniture for our living room until the kids got older and we didn't even bother having curtains in our family room for the first few years that we lived in our house....really, what's the point?" I did find comfort in that. I can't be the only parent whose house looks like this. Right? RIGHT?!!
Little by little, I've been having Cole and Bella help me repair some of the things they've destroyed. And they no longer have free access to the stickers. They no longer have free access to crayons, pens and markers. Since the little twins have joined in on the destruction, I've showed them how to use baby wipes to clean their messes.
In the meantime, I remind myself that while our home was beautifully perfect before we had children, it was also disturbingly quiet. Now our home is falling apart little by little but it's full of the sound of children's laughter. When people say to me, "wow, you have your hands full", I've always said, "yes, better to have hands full than empty arms and a broken heart". I should probably change that to "yes, better to have hands full than empty arms, a broken heart and a perfectly clean, organized home in beautiful condition". I am most definitely blessed to have my children and whenever another parent-to-be asks me what they can expect when they have children, I will now include "you will not believe the amount of destruction your kids will cause to your home....they seek and they shall destroy"!

28 comments:

Lana said...

Wow. Those could be photos of MY blinds, both the horizontal and vertical.
I have given up trying to clean the bedroom walls. I figure I'll just paint over it when I move out.
I'm surprised magic eraser didn't work for you!

I saw your interview on Kim's blog. Awesome! What a neat idea!

Fearless Mom said...

it doesn't look that bad.

kristi said...

OMG...we have the mini blind problem too! TC would pretend to be Spiderman and swing on them...ugh.

eight helping hands said...

1st of all you don't look that bad. I thought only cats could ruin blinds until my kids came along. We had one of our girls break a light fixture just by throwing a towel in the air. Sheesh!

Stacy said...

Oh I feel your pain. It is a never-ending battle daily! Katie likes to get behind the TV and pull out the wires. There are about 100 wires back there with all the receivers and stuff. Are you kidding me? My living room has thrown up toys. The twins will never learn to walk, there are too many toys in the way.

Dee said...

oh and let me add my POOR carpet to that list! Juice, food, and milk stains.....we have to steam clean all the time!

Morgan said...

Helene- only 3 loads of laundry waiting? I'm jealous.

We put our house on the market recently, and it's nuts. Our blinds look like yours (with the holes, as our kids never grab them by the handle), but we keep them up most of the time and hope no one will notice!

ParentingPink said...

Oh, thank goodness! Another house that looks LIKE MINE! Btw, it really doesn't look that bad. My 3 year old recently took a marker to her freshly painted walls and I haven't bothered to repair it yet : -)

Hajar said...

As small as my babes are, we had to back the sofa against the french doors to keep them from ripping out the vertical blind panels. That'll work until they learn to climb onto the sofa, I guess.

Sharlene said...

Helene- I have a friend who is about to have her second set of twins and they will be two years apart. You two should commiserate. She is listed on the left hand side of my blog under " Twin Wrangling Partners in Crime". Her name is Lisa. Maybe you can give her some advice form someone who truly "knows"

Morgan said...

Thanks Helene. Trust me, I in no way have it all together, but thank you for the compliment anyway.

That's great that your journals came in! I need to get writing in mine again soon. My 5 year old asked my husband to write in his the other day- he's really likes the idea that we're writing him letters.

AmberP said...

That looks exactly like my place!!
I love your honesty... oh wait.. wasn't that the word of my year!!!

Linda S said...

One problem gone and another pops up. You are always playing catchup

Nyx said...

My boys are a couple days older than your little twins. I have given up. Literally there is crayon from about the 3 1/2 foot mark down, throughout the house. I call Michael picasso most of the time. This situation is because Matthew is more likely trying to kill himself by climbing and falling from somewhere never meant for a baby. My judgement-call is save a twin's life, don't worry about the walls...My house will be clean again sometime in 2012ish. Before that it is decorated by the destructo twins....LOL

Ashlee said...

So funny! I have such great things to look forward to!

kristi said...

Hey girl, thanks for the comment on my blog..feel free to borrow whatever you want if it will help you and your Mom.

Deep down I have a fear that my Mom will still pick me apart after reading the card I sent...ugh.

betsey said...

Thank God I'm not the only one! I spend a fair amount of my day dreaming about what I would do in my cream and white, glass filled, fingerprint free condo...then I wake up to the disaster that Hannah Montana sticker, crayons and four kids can create...

Connie said...

LOL what children can do to our homes even when we're good and attentive parents. Probably no one notices but you. When they're teens you'll be wishing your house looked like that.

Chris said...

That is what the mini blinds in my house look like too. I think the boys are finally old enough I can replace them and then the other night I catch them with the blinds turned open and tossing marbles (yep, marbles) from a laying position on the floor up at the window. The goal of this neat little game? To see who could lodge a marble the highest up into the blind and get it to stay there without falling out!

mrsbear said...

I love this post. Your house looks just like mine, except for the curtains, we've never bothered putting up curtains, but the stickers, the walls, the verticals and the shades, all look too familiar. Add to that the gouges in our furniture, the disgusting stains we occasionally find under the sofa, and the chips in the plaster from where the doors burst open and the knobs crash in to the walls, and that's us. My husband will occasionally ask "why can't we have anything nice?" Well, because the kids destroy it, but you know, it's a small price to pay. ;)

Minxy Mimi said...

LOL, they do destroy things... drives me mad. My son completely destroyed the cheap blinds in our rental house... I mean horrible! Yikes!!! But in the end, you are right, their laughter is a beautiful sound making it all worth it!

bonnieearly said...

The boys have bent an nearly ripped off our drapes in the livingroom. Sigh, your sister is right... No new stuff for us until the kids are big enough to respect good furniture.

Semi-Slacker Mom said...

I'm so glad my house isn't the only one that looks like that!!!
We're planning on renovating our whole (7 yr old) house in 8 years. When our youngest is 10 & hopefully past the destructive phase.

Tess said...

Were in the process of finally fixing up our home because Im tired of living in a tiny home and want a bigger one- hmm, but that will mean more opportunities for bigger messes!

Journey on! by Kelleye said...

I hate to say it- but I have had a hard week- your blog made me feel better! I am really sick of going thru these things- but feel better knowing I am not the ONLY one! Cute post!

ComfyMom~Stacey said...

I've got stickers freaking everywhere in my house. We got rid of the blinds when DS1 was 13 months old and started using them as chew toys while teething.

Arlice Nichole said...

Oh! The blinds and stickers!!! That's my house!

Qtpies7 said...

LOL I thought I was the only one!
I have a friend who isn't a neat freak either, but she can leave a gigantic OPEN bag of dog food at her back door in the living room at all times. They never touch it. I even saw a tube of lipstick on a shelf above her toilet, about eye level to a 5 year old...........

I hide everything! And we even have resorted to using a dog chain to secure our refrigerator and pantry doors together! My walls are all drawn on. We have a monster drawn in a closet that we haven't had the heart to even try to get rid of.

Make-up gets eaten, crumbled, or used up faster than I can buy it. If I didn't get comments that I looked sickly when I don't wear make-up, I'd give it up for good.

The list could go on forever.

I figure that if the children are alive when my husband gets home at the end of the day, I've done my job.

----Roseanne Barr



 
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