Friday, February 20, 2009

Oh, why didn't anyone ever tell me??

As I was rocking Landon to sleep last night (yes, he's just 3 weeks shy of turning 2 and I still rock the boy to sleep), I was filled with a plethora of emotions. Plethora? Who came up with that word? It sounds like a disease that you'd find attacking your nether regions after a one-night stand with a guy who used the pick-up line "Wanna come see my HARD drive? Heh, heh...I promise it isn't 3.5 inches and it ain't floppy".

Anyway, yeah, I was rocking my baby to sleep and I found myself laughing (probably to keep myself from crying) about how much I've changed in the last 4 years, once I became a mother. Most of the changes were what I expected but some were not. And it made me wonder why no one ever tells you the brutal honest truth about motherhood. I'm sure it's for the same reason that no one ever tells you the brutal truth about childbirth. It ain't for the weak at heart, that's for sure.

1) I developed a deep, unconditional love for my breast pump. Both sets of twins were born prematurely before they had a chance to develop the sucking reflex. So I was introduced to the breast pump, as a way to still provide my little ones with breast milk (even the tiny amount that I had). I was attached to that thing morning, noon and night. I knew it was really bad when I woke up in the middle of the night while Cole and Bella were in the NICU and I greeted my breast pump with "Hello lover...let's get reacquainted, shall we?" and as I pumped breast milk, I sang silly love songs to my pump, like "If Loving You is Wrong, I Don't Wanna Be Right" and "Have I Told You Lately That I Love You".

2) The internet became my best friend for information on what was "normal". I've googled everything from "is green, runny poop in a 3-month old baby normal?" to "how far does a baby have to puke for it to be considered projectile vomiting?"....and of course, "how freakin long does colic last?" and "is it possible to die from severe sleep deprivation?"

3) What I once thought was thoroughly and morbidly disgusting before I became a mother and swore on my grave that I would never do was suddenly no big deal. Like holding my child's butt up to my face and sniffing to check for a poopy diaper (while in the middle of the grocery store), pulling the diaper out to see if there was poop and getting said poop under my fingernail, pinching off a snot bubble with my bare fingers, digging my finger inside my child's nose to get that tiny booger that would keep making surprise reappearances every time he'd take a breath, catching puke in my bare hands so the carpet didn't get ruined and, lastly, fishing for turds in the bathtub....with my bare hands before the kids could could get their hands on them.

4) While my expertise at diagnosing emotional problems in children might have been considered impressive at some point in my career, nothing could hold a candle to the expertise I developed as a mother. Like changing a poopy diaper in the middle of the night in a very dark room, using the nasal aspirator on a snotty nose in the middle of the night in a very dark room (although there was the one time I had to grab the flashlight because I was pretty darn sure that it was not my child's NOSE I was aspirating), picking up a sleeping baby and placing a bottle gently into his/her mouth without waking him/her up (the infamous "dream feeding", which played a HUGE part in all my children sleeping through the night at an early age) and strapping one baby in to a Baby Bjorn on my chest while juggling the other baby on one hip AND emptying the dishwasher AND talking on the phone all at the same time was actually easy.

5) Sleep deprivation takes on a whole new meaning when you have a newborn. Seriously, no one can prepare you for how much sleep you will be deprived of in the first 12 weeks. Actually, the first 6 weeks were lovely. All the babies ever did was sleep. We'd have to wake them sometimes to eat, in order to keep them on the every 4-hr feeding schedule. Tim and I often would look at each other and think, "Geez, this is easier than we thought....they sleep all the time". Then they turned 6 weeks. That was the magic number and that's when all hell broke loose. They NEVER slept....night and day. It was like all of a sudden they came to life and thought "life is one big party". And of course no one tells you about all the stupid things you do when you experience lack of sleep. Like putting the mayo in the freezer without a lid on, putting the deli meat in the kitchen cabinet and then 2 days later wondering what that horrible smell is, remembering to lock the carseat into position in the car but forgetting to securely lock the baby in the carseat, getting in the car to go somewhere and then when halfway there, completely blanking out on where I was going in the first place (causing me to pull over to the side of the road and sob). Only to turn around and come home and then get a call from the dr's office, wondering why I never showed up for the their 3-month appt (and sobbing because what kind of horrible mother forgets that her babies have a dr's appt!)

6) At my 6-week check-up, my OB asked if I was suffering from post-partum depression and I said "no" because I thought having PPD meant you just sat around and cried all the time. No one told me that I could be suffering from PPD without all the tears. I walked around in a rage all the time, mad at the world, I didn't cry all the time but when I did it was over the simplest things (like not being able to open a container of apple juice or because we had run out of kleenex), I was tired all the time yet I could NOT sleep, my brain was on alert 24-hours a day and I was having panic attacks. I started suspecting it might be PPD when I began having disturbing intrusive thoughts about hurting my babies and fantasizing about disappearing into a cloud of dust every minute of the day. It wasn't until one morning when I found myself screaming at the top of my lungs at one of the babies who had been crying for what seemed like an eternity, that Tim told me to leave the house to get a grip on myself and I packed my bags, drove to the bank and withdrew $500 with the idea of running away....far, far away. Thank God I came to my senses and that's when I was introduced to Wellbutrin. Tom Cruise can just kiss my ass.

7) I second-guessed every little thing. Every decision I made I would end up second-guessing. Here's a conversation I remember having with my husband one day:

Me: Do you think I should call the dr about this rash on Cole's back?
Tim: Sure, it couldn't hurt
Me: Well, I'm not sure I should call the dr. I mean, it's not bothering him. He doesn't have a fever. Should I just wait to call the dr if he develops a fever?
Tim: Yes, just wait.
Me: But what if it's something serious and I should have called the dr. I think I'll make an appt.
Tim: Okay, yeah, you should probably make an appt
Me: I don't want to seem like I'm going to the dr's over every little thing. They probably hate me by now. I think I'll just wait.
Tim: Alright.
Me: What do you think? Why can't you just give me your opinion, for Christ's sake? Oh never mind, I'm gonna call and make an appt. Hmmmm, maybe I'll just call the advice nurse and see what she thinks since you can't seem to decide on what to do....

8) Even though I had struggled with infertility and desperately wanted children, there were times when I found myself completely distraught, overwhelmed, exhausted and wondering why on earth I wanted children so badly. Yeah, I said it. It's the ugly truth. You can never be prepared for how much children will change your life. They will rock your world, they will turn it upside down, your life will never be the same. After my 1st miscarriage, I listened to a friend complain about her 2-yr old child who refused to be potty trained, and I thought to myself, "I'll never complain about anything once I have children...I will love every minute of motherhood". I can't tell you how many times I've laughed at myself for ever thinking that. Unfortunately, motherhood is not all sunshine and roses 24 hours a day.

9) Even though I had my bad moments and still do, I certainly wasn't prepared for how much love could fill my heart until I had kids. I loved my husband, more than the day I married him, and just when I thought there was no way to love another human being any possibly more than I loved him, my children entered my life. And I thought I knew happiness....but the happiness I had in my life was nothing comparable to the happiness I have now, especially as I watch my four children play together and hear their laughter throughout the house.

157 comments:

Karen said...

Hi, Helene. I don't have kids (yet), but I really enjoyed your post. And I'll keep in mind how much I wanted them someday when I'm up at 2am yet AGAIN with little sickies and haven't slept in 30+ hours. Maybe I should bookmark this page...

Christina said...

thanks so much for the heads up! lol I have touched about nasty thing that comes out of humans so thats not going to bother me but i think ppd is going to hit me hard.... so thank you for the warning!

I cant wait to have children! you are a wonderful mother btw

Angela said...

OMG you brought back so many memories and I'm so glad I don't have to revisit that stage in life again. Well expect for when I have grandchildren and hopefully that's really far down the line. The let's me know that I wasn't the only mom that went through this.

Yaya said...

Breast pumps totally gross me out.

Sorry you suffered from PPD. I think so many women suffer from it in silence.

blueviolet said...

I especially relate to the nose to the butt sniffing. LOL

Debbie said...

You are so right about that powerful love. There is just no way to know the depth of the love we will feel for them - or what we will put up with!

Leslie said...

Great post, Helene. My favorite line:

"Tom Cruise can just kiss my ass."

Leslie

♥georgie♥ said...

Okay I just adored this post!!!! I can relate to everything you posted LOL

MamaHenClucks said...

Oh yes, you hit every number dead on! Number Six? That was me, to a tee. Including driving away from my house with my hubs and chickies crying in the doorway swearing I was never, ever coming back. Horrible days. I'm with you - Tom Cruise can kiss it!

kristi said...

I loved my breast pump too! TC never did latch on, or my boobs were too big and I felt they might smother him, so I pumped.

I didn't sleep for almost 3 years after I had SARA and TC, with the Autism, still has sleep issues! He is 7 years old.

I should look waaay older than I do!

Amy said...

great post:)

The High Family said...

Awesome post Helene!

It was like taking a trip down memory lane...even if I just felt half these things a few months ago!

It is amazing how our lives now as mothers can be crazy frustrating but also filled with an overwhelming amount of rewarding love.

You are one amazing mama! :)

Corrine said...

very well written and very amazing learning experiences mother hood has been for you and most of us.

I think many times, even though we are grateful for our children, its ok sometimes to say "oh my goodness I had no idea what I am getting myself into."

love love your post!

The Mother said...

Oh, there are SO many times when you wonder why the hell you ever had kids. Don't let anyone ever tell you they've never thought that. If they do, they're LYING.

mrsbear said...

I love your honesty. You really said it all. I'm especially guilty of the second guessing. It drives my husband bananas, every time one of the kids is sick I agonize whether to treat, go to the doctor, or just kick myself in the shins for going back and forth so much. It was way worst with my first child too. I never had PPD as bad, but I think we've all had that feeling to a lesser degree, that one where you want to run away and never come back. It's not always sunshine and roses, but it's a package deal and it's all worth it. Also, thanks for talking me out of a newborn. ;)

MommyAmy said...

Oh my goodness, I could have written about 90% of your post! Looking back I think I had PPD too, but I also didn't realize it because there were no tears. For me it was a constant state of lethargy, I thought I could sleep for a million years, and my brain was half asleep even when I was standing upright. Hubs would tell me something, and I would have no idea what he said to me. I'd watch TV, and half way through I'd have to ask Hubs what was going on because the plot made no sense to me. I felt like I couldn't hold a single thought in my head, it was terrible. Exacerbated by the horrible milk production meds they gave me. Once I stopped taking those it was like I could actually function again.

Well, at least I'm not the only psycho mom out there! Thanks for writing this, sharing what it's REALLY like to be a mom.

Fearless Mom said...

Every word is so true. I can especially relate to the second guessing, the internet surfing, and the poop part.

Jennifer said...

I completely agree with #3! I was laughing so hard! And #6 and #8? I'm glad to know I'm not the only one!

twinmama said...

Oh Helene, have I told you lately that you're my hero? I wish so much I would have been able to read this post 2 years ago when I was in the midst of twin newborn chaos.

I suffered in silence with what I now know was PPD. There were times that I prayed that I would come down with a terrible illness and have to check into a hospital just so I could have a good night's sleep. Now I realize that wasn't normal.

Motherhood is amazing - love, tears and fishing turds out of the bathtub. No other role has all that!

Hajar said...

I'm glad someone is articulating my feelings for me... I'm just so embarressed to admit any of these negative emotions, but they do come to the surface every now and then. I feel ashamed for being so "ungrateful" sometimes.

I love my boys more than life itself, but sometimes exhaustion can make you think and act real weird. Thank you for being blunt about it. I think most mothers are just convinced there is something wrong with them, that's why they don't warn the childless women about it.

Dagmar Bleasdale said...

Oh, I just found your blog, and it is a lot of fun! I have a little Landon as well! Check out our blog, DagmarBleasdale.com, to read how he got his name :)

Creative Junkie said...

Helene, I just adore you. I really do. You write so much of what I feel. I know I've said that before, but it bears repeating.

The Schumachers said...

I found your blog off of SITS....reading your first post was the first time I have laughed all day, thanks!! Can't wait to read more!

Morgan said...

I actually have it (the love and logic toddler/preschooler book) on hand now from the library. I've read the first couple chapters, and I have to say that I think I flunked the method today. *sigh* hopefully tommorow goes better.

You'll have to let me know how the screaming book goes!

Morgan said...

Oh, and have you kept up with journaling? I have hardly written in mine at all lately... I picked up a book from the library on journaling too.

Kirsty said...

AMEN to all of these! Thanks for sharing, and making me feel a little bit more normal!!!

HarryJack's Mom said...

yep! thanx for the laughs and the reminiscing....the memories are a lot more precious from this distance ;-) Congrats on getting all your tinies thru those first rough years - enjoy!

screamish said...

that is so funny. and i think it must be so NORMAL, because I have experienced it all.

Except for the falling in love with your breastpump thing.

there I think you're a freak.

Mamarazzi said...

yep...that sounds like perfection to me. seriously...i would tak ALL of it to have a few babies.

Stopping in as part of the SITS welcoming team to welcome YOU to the SITStahood. You will love this bloggy playground and the women there.

sandy said...

Ahh, motherhood! It really changes a person! For the better of course. I can't imagine my life without kids:0)

Welcome to SITS! It's great to have you as part of the SITStahood:0)

Suzanne said...

Thanks for the great read! I could realate to so much of what you wrote...and you are such a gifted writer. I look forward to following you. Suzanne

angi_b72 said...

Wow 2 sets of 2!! Congrats to you! Stopping by to welcome you to SITS!! Love your blog!

Joy said...

Helene ~ I'm sitting here nodding knowingly at many of the fine points you have reminded me of in the young parenting department. Lots-o-fun! ;o) And it's so much easier with a sense of humor, eh?

Welcome to the SITS community ~ lots of support to be had from this group and we're glad to have you!

Stesha said...

Day 2 of the Where’s Wenda? Contest is here. Today, I am visiting all of the SITStas that commented on Hot Chocolate Caramel Mocha. That means you! Thanks so much for stopping by and for being a great SISta! -Wenda

Chris said...

I suffered a little depression after having my youngest son. I didn't sit around and cry either. I just knew I fealt bad and didn't know why.
I bet you did develope unconditional love for your breast pump. I know I did for mine.

A Psych Mommy said...

What a great post! I can totally relate to almost all of it--my son was in the NICU too and I had the love for the breast pump, I sniff my kids butt, Dr. Google is my best friend, etc. etc. Love your blog! Glad I discovered it from SITS!

Jacky said...

Wenda seeker visiting you!

bonnieearly said...

I had no idea you felt that way for your breast pump.

Monica said...

I just found your blog through your comment and I am so enjoying it...all of it!!! You sound like such a fun person. I can relate to so many things in this post. My twins were born prematurely, too and the breast pump was my best friend.

Mandy said...

You've come a long way!!! I can completely relate to almost every single thing you wrote, especially the part about PPD.
I'm with the Welcome Wagon for The Secret is in the Sauce and I'm so glad to meet a new SITSta, you will love this group of crazy ladies! Welcome, welcome, welcome!
-Madny

wife.mom.nurse said...

Oh my gosh, I just want to comment on every one of your points.

Your posts make me laugh.

You are doing extreme mothering of multiple multiples and you have some extremely hilarious mothering moments to write about. (Did I really just write that? ")

Thanks for sharing!!!

Heather Happymaker said...

Another amazing post from you, Helene. I didn't know about your PPD. How awful. Just the sleep deprivation alone will make a new Mom go nuts. Love what you said about Tom Cruise!

Jen said...

Oh my goodness, I totally could have written this post. We have very similar stories. I don't have 2 sets of twins but I do have triplets plus 1. I remember that sleep deprivation oh so well. I was always questioned about PPD b/c I was told that I always looked tired. I was like yeah, I have 4 kids under the age of 3, oh course I am tired.

BTW, just wanted to welcome you to SITS! I am so glad that you joined.

Eudea-Mamia said...

I'm supposed to officially welcome you to SiTS - but I got totally sucked into your blog.

Hope you don't mind if I follow along. Your sense of humor is right up my alley.

Oh, Welcome to SiTS!!! Em

Rhea said...

really great post. I can't even count how many times I've had that same conversation about whether to call the Dr or not. lol

I'm with the SITS Welcome Wagon! I've been with them for like 8 months or so now...and read so many fun blogs, met so many amazing woman and really enjoyed my time in this great community of women. So, welcome aboard!

AP said...

oh my goodness I can so relate!! and I don't have twins!! just 2 kids!!
I always 2nd guess myself.
and its funny when your baby actaully sleeps 4 hours straight you feel like you got the most awesome night of sleep!!
and yes what did mothers do before google!!

love your blog, welcome to SITS

greedygrace said...

Awesome post! I totally agree,and these are things that women without children simply cannot understand.

Welcome to SITS! We're happy to have you join us!

jungletwins said...

What an awesome post! You speak the truth, Madam. My favorite part was your description of the breast pump relationship- I had a similar liaison myself!

3 Bay B Chicks said...

I don't know how you continue to do it, Helene. Your posts always sum up my thoughts so succintly as a Mom. There are times when I think it would be great if you could see how your readers react when they read your posts. For me, I am always nodding at my computer screen.

Thank you!

-Wenda

Elizabeth Channel said...

I lived #3 subpoint C (catching vomit in bare hands) last night.

Thank you for such an honest, authentic post. I'll never forget after my first child was born and wouldn't quit crying and I couldn't get out of bed because of a catheter and my husband was snoring so loudly and wouldn't wake up so I chucked him in the head with a bottle of contact solution I earnestly thought to myself that maybe I'd better send the baby back.

Motherhood is one of the only thing that is indescribably harder than you thought it would be while simultaneously being unbelievably more joyful than you thought it could be.

Anonymous said...

Hi,
I love your blog and your outlook on motherhood . I have been reading for some time and you are right on when it comes to the life of a mother . Im expecying baby #2 in 2 weeks so the sleepless nights will start all over for me . I aready have 1 4 year old .Im going to ask the Dr for Zoloft as soon as i deliver . I dont want to get ppd again at least now I know what to look for

Sharlene said...

Helene- I think the lack asleep associated with more than one newborn is insane. i can't imagine doing that again. I am still recovering two years later. Thank you for your very honest post. I feel the same on so many levels.

Tracy said...

Wow. Amazing. I know I'm coming in late on this one, but WOW. I can totally relate. Thank you.
You should have gotten an invite to view my blog...if you didn't, email me at tvo1991atcharterdotnet.

Lana said...

Hahaha at number 3! I dipped my finger into poop more times than not before I finally resorted to the sniffing. Anywhere. Any place. Anytime. I would forget about the oddness of it until I drew some strange glances.. Still beats poop under the fingernails!!

Minxy Mimi said...

This: "Even though I had struggled with infertility and desperately wanted children, there were times when I found myself completely distraught, overwhelmed, exhausted and wondering why on earth I wanted children so badly."

Is something I thought about many times... they can throw you for a loop, drive you mad, make you scream and cry and still you love them. Motherhood is quite amazing!

Neetu Sharma said...

Hello!
My name is Neetu Sharma. I m an SEO executive in Capstone BPO. We provide a variety of affordable web solutions, data entry, SEO services, online data capture that will help you in sharing your goals, mission, business or services.

More Services :-
Web Design India

SEO Company India
Link Exchange Service
Online Tutor and Tutoring Services
Home Tuitions and Online Tutor
eCommerce Websites and Outsourcing services
etc…..

David said...

Wow 2 sets of 2!! Congrats to you!

Web Design Company, Flash Templates Design
Emergency Restoration Company

gaelikaa said...

Yeah, I've been there. You know, you probably did hear everything before but it probably didn't register, or if it did, it did on an entirely different level. Anyway, now ya know! And so do I.

cat said...

Oh gosh, my boys will be two in 3 days and I keep being nostalgic about the time that had passed and what I have learned. Point no 9, yes, that off course is what it's all about.

Betty Manousos:cutand-dry.blogspot.com said...

Sorry you suffered from PPD.
I love your post

Yaya said...

(((Hugs)))

Mimi and Tilly said...

I really appreciate your total honesty. Your reference to Tom Cruise made me laugh out loud. I think you are totally fab.

Elizabeth said...

Wow, this post takes me back - I think I've thought most of these things in the last two years since I joined the ranks of motherhood. I still have those fleeting thoughts of "what was I thinking?" when I have an especially rough day with my toddler, but then he'll come up to me and give me a big smooch and all will be right with the world again. At least for a little while. What an awesome post!!

Sandy said...

I see moms everywhere today reading, nodding their heads and saying...'uh huh, uh huh.'

Jennifer said...

What a great, honest post. I loved it.

Sherri @ Luv a Bargain said...

It is so nice to feel normal:) Perfectly said!

Crystalin Dunn said...

Ohhh, I feel like we should be sisters--or best friends at least! Except it would be very unbalanced, because our relationship would consist entirely of me saying: Please give me a 500 essay on this problem I'm having, by this afternoon at the latest! I guess I'll have to settle for reading your posts and just feeling lots of mother-to-mother affection for you. Thanks for making the mommy world better!

Joy said...

I like your candor!

Congrats on your SITS day!

Christine said...

I think that most every mom can relate to your story or a part of your story. It's all true and completely wonderful!

A Fist Full of Dandelions said...

Great post. I have to remember not to share or talk about the gross things I have the do as a mom with the single girls at work. They just don't get it...someday they will.

Kirsten said...

I am now following you. I think your posts are super.

Pam said...

ANOTHER great post on motherhood. All so true!

Christina said...

This whole post was fabulous, but I have to be honest... I'm still giggling about the nerdy pick-up line in the introduction. :-)

Helen McGinn said...

Oh, this post hits a chord. I had an 18 month old when I had my twins. I would say my postnatal depression was mild but it hurt. I kept it to myself and that was not the best idea. I was tired beyond belief and tried to study and went back to work part time after 6 months. Crazy days. I came to my senses eventually and life with two 8 year olds and a 9 year old is wonderful but we had some hairy moments, I can tell ya! All the very best and it really does get easier. xx

Charlene said...

Found you through SITS and so glad I did. GREAT blog! I'll be "following!"

Karen (KayKay) said...

Oh my goodness. You brought back so many memories. Good and bad. What a wonderfully funny and *real* post!

Queenie Jeannie said...

My neck kinda hurts from nodding at everything you wrote!!! Soooo, soooo true - every word. And no one would have convinced you beforehand, lol!

{leah} said...

AMEN!! I don't have twins but I do have a 5,4,3.... {that was 2,1, newborn 3 years ago} and I laughed at everything you said!!! spot on.

peeking in from SITS!

Kimmy C said...

Brutal honesty. Great post.

THanks!

Jessica said...

It's all 100% true. I think people tell you these things when you're pregnant but somehow it just flies in one ear and out the other. Saying to ourselves "I'll be a better mother than you and none of these warnings apply to me." HA Little did we know.

Janna Bee said...

I'm really taken back to two years ago when I went back to work and my second child was 3 months old. I was so sleep deprived, I thought I was going to lose it. I was still breast feeding, breast pumping, working full time, and the little one was waking up every 1.5 hours. Two weeks back I slammed my finger in the door, breaking it, right before my three year old's birthday party. That was THE lowest I felt. It's hard to imagine at those times anything will ever get better. Lovely post.

FRANNIE said...

They never, never tell you about how tired you can actually become.

I remember a 3am feeding where I fell asleep in the rocker with the baby and was woken up two hours later by the dog still holding the baby. :)

Frannie

Julie @ Little One-of-a-Kind Design said...

I think you captured "real" very nicely in this post! Nothing a book would ever tell you!

Stesha said...

The poop check is classic! I would waste so many diapers without it:)

Hugs and Mocha,
Stesha

Melanie said...

Another great post. Every word true. Really appreciated number 8. I also went through infertility and although I desperately love my daughter there are days...

sweetjeanette said...

Congrats on being the FBV for today from SITS! Enjoying your blog so much!!!
sweetjeanette.blogspot.com

Ronnica said...

Not being a mother (yet), I enjoy reading these posts. Helps me learn even a little more what my life might be like as a mother.

Disney said...

Oh wow, so true!! The first month of my daughter's life was the hardest thing I've ever gone through. Utter misery. And then she turned two, and now I'm wondering which age is worse! Ah!!

BlogBaby said...

Frig Helene, you are THE BEST.

You had me crying, laughing and commiserating along with you. Believe me you are not the only Mama to ever "attempt" to run away, even after the PPD has run it's course. But you don't know what a relief it is to actually hear someone admit to it. Thanks for putting it out there.

Truly.

BlogBaby

La Belle Mere UK said...

I LOVE your honesty. I wish more mothers were more honest about the reality of child-rearing. And the perfect accompaniment to the honesty is the big dollop of humour!!

Brilliant.

Happy SITS day.

LBM xxx

Mary said...

I'm 52 and I don't think I've ever really recovered from motherhood.

Hope you had a great SITS Day!

Miss Behavin said...

Yeah, I'm a butt sniffer too!

Sara's Whimsy said...

Happy SITS Day to you Happy SITS Day to you!!!

I KNEW women were lying about childbirth! You probably don't forget about the pain either do you!?!?

The runny green poop has helped me reset my biological clock!

Lamonica Epps said...

Great blog post. I like the title of your blog.

Stopping by from SITS

http://fabulousgccandles.blogspot.com/

Tonya said...

Another great post! I can't wait to have my first baby!

Robbie S. Redmon, LPC said...

Happy SITS Day!

Heather of the EO said...

Seriously, I can't believe how often I touch poop...

Came by from SITS today. :)

Lynn said...

I say we mothers need a reality TV show and not any Jon and Kate Plus 8 but a real mother who is not as organized as her and forgetful and just...real. The closest thing I have ever read that has a ring of truth to it about motherhood are Jenny McCarthy's books. All of what you just wrote? True, true, true. And awesome.

My best, Lynn

Just Jennifer said...

You reminded me of all the things I used to think when my son was just a little thing. Now, it's like wow... Ya know?

Pollyanna said...

Happy SITS day!

This post is sooooooo true. Even though these types of posts bring a tear to my eye, I love them. It helps so much to know that I'm human and not alone in my thoughts and actions as a mom.

Thanks!

Rebecca is Thrilled by the Thought said...

I have those same exact conversations about the doctor with my husband!

Rebecca is Thrilled by the Thought said...

I have those same exact conversations about the doctor with my husband!

SPEAKING FROM THE CRIB said...

this post rings true for alot of moms! HAPPY SITS DAY!

Brandi said...

I love #2. Thank God for the internet.

Jessica said...

Hilarious, beautiful, and so, so true. I love it.

Congrats on your SITS day!

Karen, author of "My Funny Dad, Harry" said...

Glad you have decided motherhood is worth it. Personally, I'm glad I don't have kids. I never could imagine me with babies--ever! Funny about how husbands can't seem to make a decision when you ask them to.

Happy SITS day to you!

Astrid said...

I can most certainly sympathize! Being a mom is certainly the most challenging thing I've ever done. I have to agree with the PPD. I wish I'd gotten help. I was in such a dense fog for about two years after (and during the pg) each of my daughters' births that I never want to have another one.

Great post!
Happy SITS day!

Keri said...

Yep, the hardest and most important job in the world. Don't know how you do it, but so glad that you do. Keri

Mel said...

Wow, awesome post again....there's nothing like a love between a mother and her child/children. There's just nothing like it. And there's nothing like a mother's protection when something threatens said child.:) I can't imagine life before we had children.

Robin said...

Ha Ha I like the Tom Cruise jab. But more importantly, THANK YOU for sharing this. Most people just don't understand how common Postpartum issues can be, and how varying it can be as well. There is no little memo that drops in to tell you have it, and what to do about it. Every great experience is riddled with flip sides, regrets, and complete surprises (many not so great). Thanks for sharing yours!

-Robin
www.robingillis.blogspot.com

Two Normal Moms said...

Love your honesty!
***Ally

Amanda @ Serenity Now said...

Ugh, the pump. I pumped for 6 months exclusively with my first, and for 7 months with my second. I hated that thing by the time I was done each time. :)

Sevibabyyy said...

Sleep deprivation takes on a whole new meaning when you have a newborn.

My biggest fear considering I barely get sleep now with no kids.

Jules said...

Finally! Thank you for your honestly, especially when you admit that sometimes that thought "why did I have children?" really does cross your mind. That happens to everyone, and if someone says it doesn't, I would have to guess that they were lying.

Zeemaid said...

you know you always get the line "well nobody said it would be easy". Yeah... well nobody said it would be this darn hard either.

I can so relate to what you are saying here.... can you still have PPD when your youngest is 2? ;)

Jessica said...

Perfectly put! And re: PPD it is a sneaky fella and isn't always about crying in a corner all day long. Thanks for sharing your experience with the world.

Simply Mommy said...

What a great post and so true. I had PPD too and very didnt realize it. I knew about the baby blues but like you said I was never to the point where I was crying all the time or not wanting to get about of bed. I was sad sometimes but mine was mainly significant anxiety. I did have weird thoughts go through my head too. It such a hard time. I think we need to make women more aware that PPD can be a variety of symptoms and not just the typical text book sings everyone thinks of!

The girl with the flour in her hair said...

Great post.

I was also introduced to Wellbutrin and I no longer scream at the kids when the thunder wakes them up... :)

Sara said...

Congrats on your SITS day!
I would like to know why no one ever told me that my involuntary reaction to my toddler vomiting in public would be to PUT MY HAND UNDER HER MOUTH. Really? I mean, why would ANYONE do that??? I guess a mom would. :)
Great post!

Harmony said...

What a great post! I often feel like to many things about motherhood and how we get here are left secret.

Days of Whine & Noses said...

I've been a mom for 14 years now and I have yet to pick up a 'manual' on how to do it.

Happy SITS day

shortmama said...

In spite of all the craziness we still love them so deeply..how does that happen?

Laura said...

I rocked my girls as long as they let me. The saddest day was when I realized I didn't need a rocking chair any longer.

leigh said...

I have lovingly named my breast pump-Hungry!

This is such an honest post.

XO
Leigh

barefacedapproach said...

So much truth to this post. Well said.

nicole said...

Motherhood is a crazy mixed up bag of emotions!

You put it into words beautifully!

a H.I.T. said...

You have a fabulous writing style. Happy SITS day!

K a b l o o e y said...

Thanks for your candor and good humor. Over from SITS and so glad.

Stephanie said...

Oh the giggles you have given me!!!! Over visiting from SITS and I think I may pull up a chair and stay awhile!

A Real Housewife said...

Your kids are lucky to have you!

T~T said...

so so true

Charlene said...

Awesome post!!

Nikki said...

wow thanks for such an honest post! I don't have any kids yet but we're in talks about it, and this is great to keep in mind for when the time comes. the last one makes all the others seem so worth it:) thanks again!

Darcel said...

Don't you wonder why your friends never told you the truth?

I too had PPD with my girls. I was also in a rage and very angry.

I love being a SAHM. For me it is what I dreamed of, and as you say. God definitely has a sense of humor.
I wouldn't trade it for any other job in the world.

You have a great blog.

Krissy @ B.Inspired, Mama! said...

I feel ya on the PPD bit! My own mother gives me flack about being "all drugged up," but I wouldn't make it through the day without it!

Mighty M said...

Great list - so glad you got help for your PPD!

firststepforward said...

It sounds like SUCH a blessing.

Mama Mair said...

"is it possible to die from severe sleep deprivation?" Is a question I ask myself almost daily. Sometimes while on the treadmill.
Happy SITS Day!

Midday Escapades said...

Very well written! I also did this: "The internet became my best friend for information on what was "normal".

Missy said...

I love how you are willing to put yourself out there and be real.

Great post!


Happy SITS day!

Rook No. 17 said...

Thanks for your candor, your wit and good humor, and putting it all out there SITSta!

Koo and Poppet said...

So true.
I am a diaper-sniffing, booger-picking, lick-my-thumb-and-wipe-food-off-daughters-face kind of disgrace.
but hey, I prefer it to wearing heels all day as I did in my former life!

Little Miss Baker said...

You sure do have a way with words. I love this. Thanks for sharing :)

Sandra said...

I don't think anyone can really be prepared for motherhood. You just have to be there!
Sandra

Rebecca said...

Yep - I think we'll try another dog before we try for children :) - although #9 sounds pretty good...

The Dapper Darling said...

You are just a doll! I love your optimism and humor!

Meg said...

I think even if someone had told me the 'realities' of motherhood I would never have believed them . . . MY kids would never do that, it can't be THAT bad, THEY were obviously doing something wrong . . . LOL

Halle@HouseCapated said...

I totally admire your honesty.
I also learned something...I didn't realize that PPD doesnt have to be crying all day. I had such a short fuse after I had my boy (he just turned 2) and I couldnt figure out what the heck was wrong with me. I'm feeling better now, but it took a LONG time. Great post!

LenaLoo said...

Hey there, visiting from SITS (Happy Feature Day! I have to tell you, this post could not have come at a better time for me... I am 31 weeks pregnant with my first baby and I have struggled with Depression through most of this pregnancy, which we tried 1.5 years for and finally got after 1 miscarriage, I have already had thoughts of running off and leaving my child with his much more level headed father (my husband whom I love to pieces) and moments of wondering what the heck I was thinking by trying to get pregnant... I admire your honesty more than I can tell you... I am so scared that PPD will get me because I know I am at a much higher risk since I have had depression through the pregnancy, but I know I can get through it with God's help... Thanks for telling us all the things that you wish others had told you... I am bookmarking this post and following you :)

Cheryl said...

Sooooooooo True! Still LMBO!!!!
Cheryl

Pricilla said...

Happy SITS day

Michelle said...

Another great post!

Katrina said...

...and to think, those are only some of the things no one tells you!
Happy SITS day!

The Mom @ Babes in Hairland said...

Man, once again, you hit the nail on the head w/all this. It's amazing what being a parent does to us huh?! Hope your day in the SITS spotlight was a good one!

Btw, I'm having a giveaway over on my blog, so feel free to come check it out! (in between all that other stuff you have going on - cuz I know it's not like your busy or anything! LOL!

www.babesinhairland.blogspot.com

Emily said...

Ditto to thhe thoughts about wondering what the great deal is about motherhood! Thanks for your honesty. PPD is something that I think many women experience but are too scared to talk about.

joeypouch said...

You are my hero. It's as simple as that!

Fran said...

I just found your blog tonight! Ha ha ha three years on and it all seems like yesterday, glad to know am not an evil mummy & that twinsanity is worldwide :-)
When it's good it's just the best but when it's bad it's HORRENDOUS!!!
:-)
We are still in twinshock here but can't remember what life was like be/fore them - we recall our life B/T& A/T.... you know what I mean right?

I figure that if the children are alive when my husband gets home at the end of the day, I've done my job.

----Roseanne Barr



 
Blog Design by Likely Lola