Sunday, April 26, 2009

An unexpected treat....

I wake up every Saturday morning, mentally going over a list of all the things I need to do....mostly running errands, which include (but are not limited to) grocery shopping, weekly run to Target, weekly run to Babies R Us (diapers) and the list goes on. This Saturday morning started off no different than any other.

I was awoken by 4 little people coming into our bedroom....one jumping on the bed next to me, one pulling at my hair, one grabbing at my arm and the other one screaming at the door, "Mommy, I want french toast for breakfast". Oh yeah, Saturday is still a "work day" but at least I can stay in my jammies for a couple hours, unlike on the weekdays when everything is go, go, go, rush, rush, rush.

The phone rang around 8:45 am and my first thought was that it had to be a family emergency, like my sister screwing up her computer by opening an unfamiliar e-mail and calling Tim in a panic (which would usually result in him
spending a majority of his afternoon at her house, fixing the problem).

But it wasn't my sister calling....it was one of my fellow twin mommy friends, Brenda! She offered to bring her girls over and watch all the kids while Tim and I went out for a little while. At first, I thought maybe she had a really high fever and was hallucinating or something....but, no, she was truly offering to come over and hang out with the kids so Tim and I could get out of the house for some one-on-one time.

Now I have to say, my kids are adorable, friendly, super fun and they provide hours of entertainment but I don't exactly have people standing in line at my front door waiting for the opportunity to watch my kids. We usually have to BEG the grandparents and if we're lucky enough to get them to agree, Tim and I really can't enjoy ourselves because we're worried about the kids the whole time and we feel rushed to get back home to the kids, especially with my stepdad asking about 3 times (within a 10-minute period) "and what time do you think you'll be back?".

I must have asked Brenda at least 3 times "are you sure?" and that's when I realized I had better stop asking her that before she came to her senses and said, "you know what? I AM having second thoughts now...it did seem like a good idea at first, though". But she didn't say that at all...she kept insisting that she and the girls wanted to get out of the house anyway and she was happy to do this for us. So I told her that I'd talk to Tim and get back to her.

I walked over to where Tim was laying on the sofa, completely unresponsive and in his own little world of denial, while the kids ran around spitting on one another. I said, "Guess who that was?? Brenda!! She said she'd be happy to come over and stay with the kids for a little while so we can go out somewhere!". He came to life right before my very eyes and asked, "What's she smoking....cuz I'd like some..." and then he said, "wait, are you serious....you're not joking??" and I shook my head.

I said, "I feel so guilty though...it's so nice of her but I don't want to take advantage of her kindness" and Tim said, "give me the phone....I'll call her...your mommy guilt is out of control, woman". With that, I grabbed the phone back from him and he said, "Ask her how soon she can be here...."

We made arrangements for her to arrive around 1:00 pm, when the little twins would be down for a nap. Cole and Bella were super excited....they totally were not expecting a fun playdate today...and Tim and I totally were not expecting to be able to run off for a few hours and do whatever we wanted! I could hardly contain my excitement.

When she arrived, we said our goodbyes to the kids and off we went, with her assuring us that everything would be fine. Oh, and she didn't ask 3 different times when we would be back...in fact, she told us to take our time. We saw the movie "State of Play", which was awesome, although I was rather disappointed by Russell Crowe's whole grungy greasy look. Usually he's pretty hot but in this movie...not so much. After the movie, we ran over to Costco, which was closeby to the theater, and picked up a few things that we needed.

Then we arrived home and we were pleased to see that Brenda was.....well, still alive. We thanked her a million times over and told her that she needed to let us return the favor soon, when she and her husband needed some time alone.

One of my blogging buddies, Paula, often writes on her blog Organizing Tips and Thoughts for Moms, about clutter-free gifts....basically, replacing those material items we often give to others as gifts with the gift of love and time. That's what my friend did for me today and it was completely unexpected and completely genuine, with no strings attached. And that was better than any gift I've received in a long, long time....

We could all use more friends like that in our lives, don't you think?

27 comments:

kel said...

Don't you adore friends like that?? Yay for friends! Glad you got out and had fun!

Kristina P. said...

What an amazing friend! It sounds like a lovely afternoon.

Tami said...

Didn't it feel wonderful!? I'm glad you guys had some 1 on 1 time!
It makes marriage, and that time alone so much better when you have a couple of hours away.

Creative Junkie said...

WOW. That is one great friend! What an incredibly thoughtful gesture.

Karen said...

What a great friend!

I'm bad about offering to take care of people's kids for them, but I always say "yes" when they ask, as long as I don't have anything else I have to do.

Maybe I should call up one of my friends this week. Thank you for the idea!

D said...

Good friend. I sit for my sister's two constantly and there's just something great about being to escape. I might install a hatch in the kitchen in fact! Glad you had such a fun day. I'm jealous though. I haven't been to a movie in years!

Tami said...

I have something for you..

Please stop by and pick it up..

rules are .. you MUST pass it on!

Hajar Zamzam Ismail said...

Well, that sure was an act of kindness. I'm glad you enjoyed this treat so much!

Michelle Hoad said...

I have seven kids and absolutely no family nearby. Without my wonderful friends, I would never see my husband alone. I agree with the clutter free gift idea. A few hours alone is worth way more than junk I have to dust.

MommyAmy said...

Love it! You are super lucky to have friends like her!

We don't have that many friends unfortunately... kinda hard to make friends when you rarely leave the house. lol However! My parents live nearby and are always eager for a chance to spend time with their grandkids. They come over to sit for us about twice a month. Hurray!!

The Mother said...

She's a keeper. They are few and far between.

Amy B said...

That is such a nice treat for both you and your DH. I think it is wonderful she offered and you allowed her to bless you with it.

Sarah said...

What a great friend! Glad you'll had a good time.

Jen said...

now that is the best gift ever! I need to find a friend to do this with. Truly, I am happy for you, jealous but happy. ;)

Savvy Little Women - Kate said...

Glad you got out! Great friend!

jungletwins said...

One word: WOW

What an amazing friend, and what a great surprise and gift! Glad you two got a break, you've definitely earned one.

Laurel said...

Thanks for the comment on my blog. :)

What a GREAT friend. When I had a houseful of little ones, we didn't have anyone that would offer to watch the kids (friends or relatives). Now ... we are blessed to have big kids that will watch all the little ones. :)

I look forward to getting to know you better. Love your blog.

mama of 13

Missy said...

Can you send her over to my house!!!
Wow, what a wonderful friend!

Too funny about Abby & Emma having identical twins! How cool if it would have been us!

ck said...

I smiled the whole time I read this post. I don't have two sets of twins (YOU are a hero, lady) but I totally related to that brand of mommyguilt and the amazing feeling of the surprise "I'll watch your kids" and the blissful freedom of leaving the house.

Ahhhh...

Domestically Disabled Girl said...

Well, I would've jumped too. It is almost sad that when something like this happens, we don't know how to respond! It is crazy, isn't it? Alas, she is a strong, strong woman, and lucky you for having her in your life!
BTW, cute video above!!

twinmama said...

Awesome friend! That is really, really cool! I have to admit I am so envious! We have very, very few people that we could ever call upon to watch the kiddos and we always feel trapped at home night after night. DH and I were just talking about this topic over the weekend and we both miss spending time with each other, but there is no one that we can ask.

Good for you getting out! That is great you got to see a movie! The last movie I saw in the theaters? "Over the Hedge" (prior to getting pregnant with the girls!) Yeah, it was a loooong time ago!

MoodyMommy said...

I have two of the bestest friends ever and we often do that for each other....That is THE BEST WAY TO SHOW LOVE AND FRIENDSHIP!!!

Elizabeth Channel said...

How lovely, and what a grand friend! There's nothing like Costco without children, is there? I went last week to Walmart sans kidlets and it was like a vacation.

Who knew?

Before we had children we sure took these kinds of events for granted, eh?

Kari said...

can we get her cloned and send her to PA....please! please! please! please! please!

wife.mom.nurse said...

What generosity!!!!

The High Family said...

How freakin' awesome is that?!! What a great friend!!!!

A few weeks ago I had a home show party and my aunt offered to take our two for a few hours on Friday night so Chris and I could prepare for the party. I was like, OK!...when can you be here?! We went grocery shopping and out to eat...AND got the house in order. It was sooooo nice! While in the car and at the grocery store, we kept saying, "this is weird? No kids screaming or talking!" and I found it amazing how much faster we could get things accomplished without the kids!

Oh and we had to laugh because my aunt came back three hours later and was exhausted! LOL You see, Kara is still going through a stage where she only wants me or Chris so she screamed the entire time! They even had to leave Chili's Restaurant after being seated because she was screaming so hard. sigh. Well at least she got to see the craziness I go through day in and day out with that little girl! :)

Mrs. M said...

Oh my gosh, what a sweet lady~we can't get our own parents to watch our children! We only go out once, maybe twice a year when we can make them feel unbelievably guilty and/or can find a willing (but often reluctant) friend.

Though I'm glad to know that Hubby and I aren't the only ones who run errands on their "alone time". I was worried we were freaks.

I figure that if the children are alive when my husband gets home at the end of the day, I've done my job.

----Roseanne Barr



 
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