Friday, July 17, 2009

As if there wasn't enough to worry about already?

I took the kids to one of the nearby jumper house places the other day. They had a ton of extra energy to burn off. Plus, I've received 4 magazines in the mail over the last week that have just piled up and they're begging to be read, especially the parenting magazines. Oh, ESPECIALLY the parenting magazines. I need to be enlightened at least once a month on the RIGHT way to do things so my kids don't spend their entire adulthood in therapy. I know they'll require SOME therapy to undo the damage but I'm okay with that. I just don't want it to have to be a lifelong process for them.

As soon as the kids got their socks on and wandered off to go play, I sat down at one of the tables and spread out my magazines, opened up my nice chilled water bottle and did eeny-miney-mo to decide which magazine to read first. Then the cover of Parents Magazine caught my eye: "Stress Less...How To Chill Out Before You Burn Out". I immediately opened it up and searched for that specific article.

About 10 minutes later, as I was trying hard to absorb all the wonderful information in the article (the noise in those jumper house places is enough to make you go deaf after 5 minutes), Bella came up to me and said, "Mommy, I have a sore in my mouth and it hurts". I asked her to open her mouth so I could look and at first I didn't see anything.

I asked her to open her mouth wider and that's when I saw it....something white behind her lower left incisor. I thought maybe it was a blister so I put my finger on it and realized it was hard. It felt like the tip of a tooth.

She must have noticed the stunned look on my face and she immediately said, "What is it??" and I said, "I'm not sure....when we get home we'll look at it under some better light...but it's nothing to worry about".

As we drove home, she repeatedly told me "Mommy, every time I rub my tongue against it, it feels sore". Each time, I'd reply, "As soon as we get home, we can put some ice on it..." and "If it's still bothering you, I can give you some tylenol". After hearing it from her at least 5 more times, I finally said, "Well, then STOP RUBBING YOUR TONGUE ON IT if it hurts when you do that!!" Sometimes I think my children simply lack an understanding for the most obvious things in life.

When we were home, I looked at it again with a flashlight in our kitchen, which has a ton of natural light coming in the late afternoon. Sure enough, it looked like a tooth but how was that possible?? She's only 4 years old and her baby tooth was still in place. It looked like such an odd place for a tooth to come up, which was what was bothering me the most.

The picture isn't very clear....as I was trying to get a picture, she kept drooling all over my fingers. I drew an arrow where the permanent tooth is starting to protrude....oh, and try to ignore the fact that she has bits of chewed up pretzels stuck in her back teeth.


I went to my laptop and googled "permanent tooth coming in behind baby tooth in young child".....I'm so happy I was born in a day when you can simply sit at your computer and find out anything you want to know. One specific site stood out to me....it was a blog called "Pediatric Dentistry" written by a pediatric dentist (I tried to ignore the fact that even though his profile said he'd been in practice for over 20 years, he looked like he had just graduated from high school).

Apparently, this is somewhat normal for young children. It's sometimes referred to as "shark teeth" because of how the teeth look if the permanent teeth come through before the baby teeth fall out. Take a look....


The dentist describes this as sometimes when the child doesn't have enough room for the permanent tooth, then the tooth may not come up right under the baby tooth. Even when the child does have enough space, the new tooth may not be able to reabsorb the baby tooth's root quickly enough so it begins to come in behind the baby tooth.

From what I could gather from his article and the comments others left in his comment section, if the baby tooth is already starting to come loose and the permanent tooth is just starting to come in, his opinion is to wait and see if the baby tooth will come out on its own within a couple weeks. If not, then the baby tooth may need to be extracted by a dentist.

At this point, I wiggled Bella's baby tooth just to see if it was loose and I was surprised to find that it was. Not extremely loose but I was definitely able to wiggle it a bit. Because our dentist is on vacation until next Tuesday, I figure we can wait and see if the baby tooth comes out within the next few days on its own. Either way, I need to make an appointment because I want to make sure everything is okay and if something further needs to be done, then we can get it done.

In the meantime, as I was explaining this to Bella, she became alarmed and started crying. She said, "I don't want shark teeth...." while Cole was intrigued by the picture of the shark teeth and he tried to convince her how cool it was. He said, "Dude, that's so awesome....". Then she started sobbing even harder, expressing her fears that the dentist was going to give her a shot and yank her baby tooth out. I held her as I tried my best to comfort her, assuring her that everything would be okay, while being careful to avoid making any promises that her tooth wouldn't need to be pulled. "Everything's going to be okay....the dentist won't do anything without talking to us first...", I kept repeating to her.

Part of the reason she was a little freaked out was also because we had talked to her previously about not losing any baby teeth until she was around 6 or 7 years old. So she was upset about why it was happening now and wondering if there was something wrong with her, especially because Cole wasn't having this issue.

I tried to focus on the fact that this was a sign that she was growing up and how cool it would be for her to get a visit from the Tooth Fairy, sooner than expected. Finally, she was starting to see the positive side of all this, though she kept telling me, "I don't want to have shark teeth...."

Within an hour, she was completely over it and had moved on to something else. Then Tim came home and we showed him the new tooth coming in and he said, "Oh, I had this same thing when I was younger, though I wasn't quite as young as her." I kept giving him the "eye"...you know, the look that says "can you please not say anything else because you're going to traumatize our daughter??"

Did he notice? Of course not. I'm telling you, I could strip naked and light myself on fire right in front of him and I doubt he'd notice. Remember, this is the same man who completely did NOT notice a beautiful bouquet of roses that a good friend of me sent me for my birthday....as he stood right in front of the roses, eating his dinner....

So he continued, "I had to go in to the dentist and they gave me laughing gas and then he yanked my tooth out....". I immediately screamed, "TIM..." but I could already see Bella's chin starting to quiver. "Great....just great....thank you for coming in here and upsetting her again after it took me awhile to calm her down about this....", I said.

Surely, nothing else could go wrong after this, right? Don't be so quick to shake your head. Then my wise husband said, "Bella, do you know what this means? It means you're growing up....just think, soon you'll have big boobies just like Mommy".

Now my poor daughter has forever been traumatized....not only is she worried about having "shark teeth", now she's worried that she'll be the only 4-year old in kindergarten with huge boobs.

48 comments:

Kelli said...

Bless her heart...that IS early for losing baby teeth, but dentistry is so brilliant these days...they'll fix her right up.

No comment on hubby...probably better if I keep it to myself. LOL

Buckeroomama said...

Your ending cracked me up, Helene!

I hope Bella won't be too traumatized by her visit to the doctor. Poor thing.

Krissy said...

Haha! Loved the manly advice!

Tami said...

Awwww Poor Bella, I think our husbands are related.. NO brainers..LOL.. not a CLUE..just..SLOW. yes it must be in the family.. Shakes head

HuGZ BELLA!!!

Stacey said...

That happened to my brother when he was a kid...at around 5 or 6, maybe, but those shark teeth came up all on their own once the baby teeth were pulled and he never needed braces.

:::big hugs::: for bella!!

parentingBYdummies said...

Your funny comment on my blog sent me over here. It's been awhile and glad I popped over b/c I had the same thing happen to #1 w/the teeth. Or, should I say tooth (since the kid is almost 8 & has only lost 1). His one grown up tooth came in behind the baby ones and hung out in there for about 3 weeks before the baby one finally gave up & fell out. Hubby called him Shark Boy (which he loved b/c one of his fave movies is Shark Boy and Lava Girl which is also one of the WORST films ever made). Sure she'll be a hit in kindergarten with her big boobs and two rows of teeth:)

Hit 40 said...

My youngest keeps having his baby teeth crack as the permanent teeth push them out which leaves a half cracked baby tooth which kinda hurts. I am glad that I'm not the only one who is perplexed and worries about how the teeth come in.

The Lane Family said...

I LOVE when husbands offer all of their "wise counsel" the help soothe a child. Sometimes it would be best if they just kept it to themselves.

I can see Aidan being just like Cole and being excited that "shark teeth" were coming in. I hope her baby tooth comes out on its on and all gets back to.."normaL" WHATEVER THAT IS!!

Becca said...

This is really funny. But at the same time I feel for poor Bella. Maybe she won't be so worried after she sees the dentist. Our dentist had a treasure chest she could pick an item from when it was time to leave (a small toy). This made dentist appts. fun for her. We had a problem with her teeth coming in and he gave her a retainer that we gradually expanded over time to open up her palate to make more room for her teeth to come in.
Let us know how it goes with the dentist.

Amy said...

Wow I learned something new for sure. That is so crazy I did not know that could happen. Oh husbands.. Poor Bella that is just crazy. I would be scared...

Meg said...

sheesh, smack him upside the head already!

Poor baby girl. My brothers teeth did that and the dentist said that it was actually more common than you think. Hopefully her baby tooth will fall out soon!

MamaHen Em said...

Well if she ends up with both shark teeth AND big bosoms, she will certaintly be the most interesting child in kindergarten!

We actually know a couple of kids who lost their first teeth right at five, so it really isn't that early. Poor thing though. I love when daddies just don't get it!

Lani said...

Poor Bella! You know, I saw another MoM had posted about this exact same thing the other day, I'm just not sure which one, but the picture looked just like the one you posted! I have seen this quite a few times in little kids though- have you tried working the Tooth Fairy angle? Maybe she'll enjoy being the first child to get a visit from and a special treat from the tooth fairy?

Yaya said...

"I don't want shark teeth!" poor baby!!!

Kathy B! said...

Poor thing! Can you imagine how scary life must be to a little kid?!

And your ending was classic! Love it :)

Kim said...

I had to laugh when I clicked over to the Pediatric Dentistry blog you linked, because that's the same exact site I landed on when I was freaking out about my daughter's grey tooth—he may be Doogie Howser, DDS, but the guy knows his stuff, doesn't he?!

Kristen said...

aww poor thing! It will be okay. I have known kids who have lost two teeth at 4! Promise and I lost all my teeth really early, so everyone is different :)

Hajar Zamzam Ismail said...

LOL!!! Tim sure was trying to cheer her up by saying all the wrong things. MEN! LOLz.

Liz @ Sugarplum Creations said...

Don't you just love it when dads come in and try to fix things??? Ay yi yi. Poor Bella, I'm sure everything will be better in no time.

Six Feet Under Blog said...

I had a big tooth come through to early when I was little. The dentist will fix her up-no worry!

Alicia said...

Oh my gosh....I'm totally busting up right now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

~Paisley's Mommy~ said...

Bless her little heart! Isn't that just like a man?!?!

Jen said...

Lauren lost both her bottom baby teeth the summer before kindergarten. I think it has something to do with how early they get their teeth. Whenever our orthodontist needed a baby tooth to come out, he told Lauren to wiggle that tooth a lot. Sure enough it would come out before he needed to take it out.

Good luck Bella - wiggle, wiggle, wiggle.

Jen said...

Lauren lost both her bottom baby teeth the summer before kindergarten. I think it has something to do with how early they get their teeth. Whenever our orthodontist needed a baby tooth to come out, he told Lauren to wiggle that tooth a lot. Sure enough it would come out before he needed to take it out.

Good luck Bella - wiggle, wiggle, wiggle.

Sadia said...

I keep learning more examples of unusual things our teeth can do.

The boobs comment ... wow! Actually, I think my Melody wouldn't mind. She's fascinated by the idea of nursing her baby dolls.

Missy (Two Little Monkeys) said...

Poor Bella! I know it had to be scary to hear. My girls freak out with any new change so I can imagine. And, seriously, on the men/husband thing. My husband tells our girls about "you will have big boobies like mommy" too - UGh!

Dianna@KennedyAdventures said...

I have to laugh at all this ..... Rachel would be thrilled to have boobs ... at least for a few hours!

Jenny said...

LOL! Shark teeth and boobs! Hilarious!

The Mother said...

That same dad is going to be standing with a shotgun when she DOES have big boobies.

Shelli (wishes she was) Mrs. Burchett;) said...

My 6.5yo was so excited when I said, "Look Owen! You have shark teeth!"

His tooth has been in for over a month, and the others aren't even wiggly! The first thing I did was text my dentist and he said it was no big deal:) He looked at the tooth a couple weeks ago when I had Ella in the office getting her Nitrous buzz, and he said he's not into making the dentist unpleasent if it's not necessary, so we're just going to leave it be for now.

ModernMom said...

LOL Poor baby...harder for Mommy then baby. I know quite a few little girls who lost teeth before starting school. My youngest had a almost a shoadow of those baby teeth that we could see for months before they fell out and perfectly formed adult teeth came in.

Semi-Slacker Mom said...

Sassy had a permanent tooth push out a baby one. She's had some major teeth issues. She had to be put to sleep at the one-day surgery center for some major dental work when she was 3. Lost her 2 front teeth at 4. And since then she's had 4 teeth pulled. But thankfully her big teeth are lots better than her baby ones.

We totally buttered her up with the whole tooth fairy thing. Hope everything works out.

D said...

Yeah, that's actually pretty common. I saw that alot when I was younger and when I worked in daycare centers. My nephew is funny about his teeth too. His first tooth came out when he was 6 and he didn't tell us it was loose. We found out when he spit it into the couch and he never let's us pull them. He'd rather just complain. Still, count yourself lucky my FBIL is way worse then your hubby when it comes to this stuff. He gives these long,elaborate explanations for everything. I get so mad because it's like,"Hello,Brainwave, I all ready explained and my commentary didn't involve the words,"pain" and "extraction". Men. I am a big believer that at certain points in life they should be muzzled.

Kaleena said...

Oh, tell poor Bella not to panic. My oldest (8 years old now) didn't even start getting baby teeth until she was 11 months old. When she finally got baby teeth, everyone said, "oh that means her teeth are super strong because it took longer for them to come in!" Imagine my shock when she lost her first tooth at the ripe ol' age of 4! Not longer after losing the first tooth, I noticed she had quite a few teeth growing in behind baby teeth. By the time she turned 5, she had almost a whole mouth full of permanent teeth and only one or two little baby teeth left. Her smile is beautiful today and she didn't seem to mind losing all those teeth once the tooth fairy started showing up on a regular basis. Tell Bella not to worry. Those aren't shark teeth. She's just got special princess teeth! Only the prettiest princess gets those! Take her shopping for a special tooth fairy pillow to put her tooth in. That little tooth will wiggle out in no time!

Shannon said...

I suppose telling her shark teeth will enable her to better bite her brother is out of the question?

Yes? Ok then.

*sigh* MEN! HOW they can be so clueless I will NEVER know!

Tina said...

My son had to have 4 teeth pulled because of this problem. He has since lost a tooth or two on his own. It was no big deal. They helped him through it and we made his dad sit in the room with him! Good luck with her and hope it is less traumatic than she thinks it will be.

Theta Mom said...

Typical boob comment! I think all husbands read from the same book! Shark teeth...she was so upset! I actually never heard of this. I would have been just like you in this situation-run home and google it. Glad to hear she's ok! Just another day in the life of a mom, right??? You should add this one to your CEO memo!

GAMZu said...

My son also lost his first tooth at age 4. It didn't happen the same way- I first noticed it shaking and was convinced that he got beaten up at school or something.

I also googled and found that age 6 is average, but it can happen as early as 4 or 5. And the earlier the baby teeth come in, the earlier they fall out.
That made sense, since my son cut his first tooth at 3 months! He just turned five and his second tooth fell out.

I myself had to have all my teeth brutally pulled. Only one or 2 fell on on their own. Yikes!

Karen said...

Men should come with a programmable chip that allows us to determine what they are able to say in accordance with the situation.

Nikki B. said...

poor bella!!

we just got the word that the girl has to have one of those retainers that widen her arch...that we screw open a litlte more every night or, so.

she lost some baby teeth....and the new teet can't come in because there is no room. like no space for the new tooth between the othere two teeth. the grown up teeth are missing in action!!

Jen said...

thanks for the education. I never knew this could happen. learn something new everyday.

Creative Junkie said...

OMG - men! WTH?

As for the teeth ... my eldest started losing hers at 4 years old. Hopefully, Bella's will just fall out on its own and it won't be traumatizing for her.

Boobs are traumatizing, no matter what age you get 'em.

blueviolet said...

I've definitely heard of that and in fact, have seen it. I remember that from grade school. I think it's not a big deal fortunately!

Mamatoosi said...

Well, at least hubby said you had BIG boobs. ;)

Dr. Dean Brandon said...

Wow, what a great post. Thanks for the link! This "shark teeth" thing is sooo common.

--and, yes. I have been doing this for over 20 years. My photo is a little dated (from about 5 years ago I think). There are a few more gray hairs I suppose...

Here is the direct link to my post on this:
"Shark Teeth"

Donna said...

I just noticed last night that my daughter has "shark teeth" too. I googled it and found the same article you did (and your blog).

It's been a half year.... how is your little shark doing? Did you end up having to have her bottom two baby teeth pulled?

Donna
Our Blog: Double Happiness!

Jenny said...

Helene, what ever happened with Bella's teeth? I just noticed today that Abby has the same thing. Her permanent tooth is a lot further back than Bella's in this pic. It's more like the other pic you posted.

I'll call the dentist tomorrow, but I am kind of freaking out at the thought of her having teeth pulled :(

Los Alexander said...

Thank goodness I found this post just through Google. We found my son's "shark teeth" TODAY and I freaked! I've never EVER seen anything like it...he was having all the symptoms this past week.
I laughed at your story, we are calling him BRUCE (his name is Dallin) for the famous shark in Finding Nemo...I have to agree with you, so grateful to have google in my life too! :)

I figure that if the children are alive when my husband gets home at the end of the day, I've done my job.

----Roseanne Barr



 
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