I haven't been feeling my best these last couple of days. I caught a nasty cold from one of the kids and my temper has been very short....absolutely no patience at all.
Yet, the kids keep pushing my buttons with their constant demands..."Mommy, I want juice", "Mommy, I need you to put my shoes on me" and "Mommy, I want you to make me a sandwich". Life doesn't stop just because I feel like crap. We all know that the words "sick day" do not exist in the vocabulary of motherhood.
The other day, Tim couldn't work from home, as he sometimes can. I was on my own with the kids for a good 9 hours...and I was dreading it.
By 4:45, I was hanging on by a thread...after having yelled at the kids pretty much all day long, crying off and on, as well as whining "Who's gonna take care of ME?" I knew if I could just make it through the next 30 minutes, he'd be home to take over.
At exactly 4:47, the phone rang and it was Tim..."Hey sweetie, I'm sorry but I left later than I expected and I'm stuck in traffic. I won't be home for another hour...maybe a little bit longer". I wanted to cry. In fact, I think I did cry....again.
Two of the kids were screaming loudly at one another, one kid was flinging himself off the sofa onto a pile of pillows on the floor and the other kid was running around naked, slapping himself on the ass. I wanted to scream at the top of my lungs again for them to settle down but...really...what would that have accomplished? Nothing, obviously, since I had been yelling pretty much all day and they weren't listening.
I quietly excused myself upstairs for a few minutes, being sure to grab my iPhone so I could listen to some soothing music to help me calm down. I told the kids not to come into my bedroom unless someone was bleeding (which is absolutely possible, considering who we're talking about).
I sat on my bed and found the perfect two songs which would give me the boost I needed until Tim walked through the door. Both of them are songs I listen to when I feel like I just might explode into a million tiny pieces, with the hope of disappearing into the atmostphere.
Even though I didn't feel good and the kids weren't exactly making life any easier for me, they didn't deserve to be yelled at. What I needed right at that moment was a 6-minute reality check.
If you've never heard the songs "You're Gonna Miss This" by Trace Adkins and "Let Them Be Little" by Billy Dean, you really do need to hear them both. And if you have heard them before but you're having a particularly rough day with your kids, listen to the songs again.
Both songs never fail to move me and brings tears to my eyes, especially when I watch the music videos, which I've included at the bottom of this post. It's a healthy reminder that we need to make the most of each moment with our kids, especially when things are rough and we want to fast forward through each and every day, clinging to the hope that things will "get better" at some point.
As the song by Trace Adkins says, you're gonna wish these days hadn't gone by so fast....even if your kids drive you to the point of wanting to slam your head against your cement driveway at least 10 times a day.
Trace Adkins "You're Gonna Miss This"
Trace Adkins MySpace Music Videos
So what helps you calm down when you realize the stress is getting to you? Is it a song? A picture? Meditation? Please...share the details!
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