Friday, February 19, 2010

It makes my heart ache…

Oh, how I miss the days when my babies were immobile and the only words out of their mouths were “mama” and “night-night”.

View Cole


I wish I had spent more time cuddling with them and less time complaining about how heavy they were to carry around all day long.

View Bella


I wish I had spent more time enjoying those middle of the night feedings and less time rushing them through just so I could get back to bed.

I wish I had spent more time pinching all their little baby rolls and pudgy thighs and less time racing through bath time so I could put them to bed.

View Cole & Bella


I wish I had spent more time playing with them on the floor and less time desperately trying yet failing to keep the house clean.

View Landon


I wish I had spent more time living in the moment and less time trying to hurry each stage and milestone by with the hope that it would get “easier”.

View Garrett


I wish I could remember every single detail of those first 6 months with my babies rather than being able to easily recall every horrifying minute that post-partum depression held me captive.

View Landon & Garrett


I can wish all I want but it won’t turn back the hands of time….and that is what makes my heart ache.

I said my HEART, people. NOT my uterus!

For those of you with little ones 6 months and younger, enjoy every minute while it lasts…even though you’re severely sleep deprived, even though your baby may scream for 4 hours straight due to colic and even though you feel like you might collapse from pure exhaustion.

Try your best not to hurry the days by…because you’ll never get them back again.

83 comments:

Givinya De Elba said...

Okay, I will. Thanks :)

Anything Fits a Naked Man said...

Time flies by so quickly, doesn't it? It's so important to cherish each and every moment. It's so cliche', but so true, yes?

Thanks for the reminder...

Jessi said...

It's true. They grow up so fast it's unbelievable. I was so excited for my first baby to do everything. She was so early on everything she walked at 8 months old and I just loved how fast she did things. But it went by so fast that when I had my son I wanted to keep him a baby forever! He too was fast on everything but I did learn to try to slow down and cherish it more. The sad thing is that he even grew up fast too!

I just think it's so unfair how fast our kids grow!

varunner said...

I have 6 month old twins. :-)

If you don't mind answering, when did your postpartum depression lift?

Jen said...

I was doing this same thing last night.

Remembering.

I too wish that I could remember those days. I wish I could have them back if only for just a moment.

Shell said...

My uterus ached a little, reading this...but then I remembered that I like sleep. So, now, it's just my heart aching.

Beautiful post!

Eva Gallant said...

The photos are absolutely adorable! They are soooooo cute!
At least you are enjoying them now!

Eva Gallant said...

The photos are absolutely adorable! They are soooooo cute!
At least you are enjoying them now!

S Club Mama said...

I wish I had the memory to remember when Tristan was so little. I remember Isaac (he's still so little). I'm trying to remember not to rush things...it's just hard sometimes. THanks for the reminder.

Missy (Two Little Monkeys) said...

Great post and oh, how precious!!! I secretly long for another baby but the husband says no more. sigh!

MamaHen Em said...

Such sweet, sweet pictures. They have such blue eyes! I feel the same way. It went by so quickly but I know that I wished the time away because it was exhausting. Now my BABY is six today. Someone once told me that the days will be long but the years will be fast.

Side by Side said...

Gosh I could have written this post...except I only have one set of twins....but those first months are still a blur in my mind.
I just wish I had taken more photos. You can never take too many!

Imjustagirl said...

That was so sweet!! I can see how easy it can be to rush through the day to day... that seems to be the story of life:)

Brooke said...

look at their round little faces - how cute!!!! :)

Amy said...

This is so true.. I mean you saw I started to cry when my little one got her new bed. Thanks for the reminder. I hope you come and link this up to my blog today. I host a Family Fridays with a friend and this would be great..

Have a great weekend.

leigh said...

I'm off to kiss my chubby baby right now.

Marianne said...

This was an absolutely beautiful post (the writing and the pictures).

If I'm still blogging then, can you please remind me of these words when I am expecting my first? I'm so the type that loses sight of the little memories and focuses on the disaster zone of a house and the lack of sleep.

The Mother said...

All true, but why be maudlin?

Kids are supposed to grow up. It's okay. And there are even better days ahead. Promise.

Those first "adult" conversations, where they are friends and not kids? SO great. Really, super great.

There is a lot to look forward to.

cindi said...

Amen sister.

Nezzy said...

Sweetie, that why God gives us grandchildren so we can pinch, cuddle and play soakin' up all the stuff we overlooked in our tiredness as new mamas. Take it from a rockin' grandma who knows!!!

Have a fun day and a wonderfully blessed weekend!!!

Neo said...

I love them at the age too b4 they grow up and decide they can do everything themselves. I loved Bella's baby pics!

Mrsbear said...

This is one of those feelings only perspective can offer. When you're sleep deprived and elbow deep in double duty diapers and feedings, if someone would've told you to appreciate every moment, you probably would've punched them in the face.

It's makes me a little melancholy that they're growing up, but DOOD, we're out of diapers. There's no going back for me. ;)

Mrsbear said...

Your babies were beautiful, they're gorgeous big kids too. :P

Twins Squared said...

You know, I think for me one of the biggest regrets in having multiples is that I feel like for the first year or so that I really have missed out on a lot. Because you really ARE so tired. When you can barely function of course you are looking for it to be better. I could barely do it and that was without postpartum depression. Few will understand fully what we have felt that first year. So many times I have looked at people with their one baby and been envious that I couldn't just give her my all. Divided and exhausted is the only way I've ever known it. Feeding 2 round the clock makes the days, weeks, months a huge blur. I definitely find it hard to find those moments but you love your kids just the same as everyone else. And I tell myself we are going to have AMAZING memories going forward. Still, I know. You can't get those days back. At least you take lots of pictures! Lots of great ones in this post!

William Manson © 2010 said...

hi there, william here from amys family friday, great post, cute kids, enjoyed reading, thanks for sharing :)

"Cottage By The Sea" said...

Yup. Those are moments you never get back unless you can vicariously re live them throught pictures. Which is a close second. Do it now while they are babies and toddlers. It isn't nearly as cute when they are teenagers. They have their moments but, for the most part. Just sayin. Then there are grandchildren and you're given your chance all over again! Good news.

Corrie Howe said...

And I say for you, now to enjoy your time because one day you'll be a little over a year away from the day they move away from home.

Robin said...

Well said..a sentiment every mother knows...but always too late....I tried and sometimes succeeded in relishing every moment...but hindsight is very clear indeed...it puts that sting in the fondest of memories...today is the first day of the rest of your life...we can always start fresh every day...so heres to grabbing on to todays memories being made..

2SetsOfTwins4Me said...

So very true.


LOL about your uterus not aching, thats the real truth right there. lmao

LazyCrazyMama said...

What a beautiful and truthful post!!

Together We Save said...

Oh my goodness.... they are so cute. But it is true.... they do grow up to fast.

The Lane Family said...

The pictures were so cute!! Well said Helene and Amen to everything you said.

I also wish that post pardum depression would have stayed away because I feel like it took away so much precious time that I can never get back.

The Girl Next Door Grows Up said...

It never gets easier - just harder in different ways.

That was a moving post.


I learned from the gianormous age gap in my girls to appreciate time. I am less nit-picky about cleaning and "me time" because I had 7 hours of "me time" when EMily went to school and I regretted each time I spent cleaning instead of coloring...

however! ya gotta clean. There is a happy medium I have found, but I still feel guilty if I want "a minute to myself already!!!!" Because Iknow that the future comes all too fast!

Elizabeth Channel said...

Sweet, and so, so true!

Erin said...

Such a thoughtful reminder for all of us.

I have blocked out so much of the girls' first six months of life simply because I was so exhausted. I don't think I spent much time cherishing them or enjoying them. It makes me sad. Maybe I can make up for it now.

Amy said...

Thanks for linking this up.. I hope you had fun at our party..

Yankee Girl said...

One day I am sure I will know what you are talking about. IN the meantime, I am enjoying my life without babies.

But when they come I will do my best to heed your advice!

Mighty M said...

Great post - so true!!

Jenny said...

This is so true. Even with my 5 year old, I find myself rushing through things like bedtime, bathtime, etc. Soon she won't need me to put her to bed or give her a bath.

Mandy Greene said...

Thank you for this post! I have 6 week old twins and a toddler and feel like I am rushing exactly the way you described! I am going to hold my babies more and really try to take it all in. Your post put things in perspective to me. As long as they have clean clothes and bottles the house can wait but they can't. Thank you

Simply Complex said...

I so needed to read that since I am expecting number 2 in less than 6 months time. I am already getting anxious over the sleepless nights and worried I am going to get the blues. I don't like the postpartum blues...

Peterson Family said...

Cute pics! And you are so right..you should enjoy every little moment with your children because they do grow up so fast.

Ginny Marie said...

Oh, what a sweet post! I think the same thing when I realise that I've probably had my last baby...

Rebecca said...

Love when they're trying sooo hard to keep their heads up! The Halloween picture is hysterical!

Jessica said...

That post-partum is a monster, and they do grow up too fast. Its too bad we only realize that when they're teens, and we're left wishing they were babies again. ;)

shortmama said...

it goes by too fast!

Angela said...

Love, Love, Love the pics! Especially of that pudgy little girl! Is she not the cutest? It is hard when you're in the middle of it! Thanks!

VKT said...

Helene,

I have a daughter in college now and you are right, time goes by so quickly!

I have been teaching kindergarten for 34 years and I treasure these precious little darlings and the year I get to spend with them!

The Crazy Baby Mama said...

thank you so much for this reminder...

HarryJack's Mom said...

Sad, but true. No matter what your opinion about parenting multiples, it is the only thing I feel like I really missed....the time to just enjoy little moments one-one. I also regret having rushed thru so much of it, but still find myself hurrying things along. Great food for thought - I hope you're able to enjoy the moments as they come.

Clueless_Mama said...

Beautiful post and SO TRUE! Now that I can't have anymore it becomes even more real:(

Mercy said...

I totally agree with you. They grow too fast. Such cute pics too.

Dorothy said...

It's so true, I just said that about my youngest grandson who is six and with me for an overnight with grandma. The time is fleeting and he's growing up so quickly.

Hugs to you for the love of your family.

Dorothy from grammology
grammology.com

Merri Ann said...

When I read your post yesterday it almost made me cry ... I feel the same way. I'm glad though that I was pulled away by kiddos before I could comment. My mom is here visiting and I told her about your post. I said I felt the same way and really wish I had enjoyed it more ... just been more in the moment. I have no memories of being happy at that time. She was quick to tell me the opposite was the reality ... she only remembers how much love I showered on those three kids and how happy I was to finally have a family. And, sure enough, when my mom and my husband started showing me photos and videos last night ... they all show me laughing and smiling ... and the kids all look really happy.

I think the PPD and all the freaking tiredness makes us forget all the happiness and tender moments ... plus that age goes by soooo fast.

This was a really beautiful post ... sorry to be so wordy ... but when I look at all the pics you posted the one thing that comes to mind is how happy your kiddos look ...

Have a good weekend, Helene.

Lori said...

You are SO spot on! Wait til their teens, then you'll REALLY miss the days when they only said "mama" "dada" and "night night". LOL In all seriousness, I truly miss those days.

Capturing Smiles said...

What a great blog, I often wish those same things! I turned it around my starting to home school them and I devote a lot of time to them, and found even with a 10 and almost 15 yr old, we have really bonded, learned to work / help each other in a good manner, and I feel a lot closer to them now! It's never too late!

heather@it'stwinsanity said...

Well said. Well said. :)

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The Blue Zoo said...

Oh gosh, that first year with twins is SO hard! Especially when you are breastfeeding. I remember just crying and crying cause I was so tired.

But then I look at their sweet baby pictures and get sad that I was so tired I didnt enjoy it.

tickledpinktwice said...

Great post. KUDOS to you. 4 kids in 2 years. WOWZA!

Our youngest is turning 10 months and I often wonder where the time went too. It's been enjoyable yet exhausting. Heck, I'm sad our oldest is turning 7. Somehow, the hubby will trick, I mean, convince me to try for just one more.

I didn't battle any sort of depression but I know BFing was a challenge in the beginning, then came colic, and now teething.

Thanks for the spin on it all.

Happy Saturday Sharefest, SITStah!

Amy W said...

These are great photo collages! Isn't it great that we at least have some photos and maybe even some video of those precious first few months? Sleep deprivation really kept me from remembering most of those moments, I have to admit!!

Ms Bibi said...

Isn't that the truth. My "baby" is turning 13 next months.

Adorable pictures, so sweet.

Alicia said...

You're so right! I wish I can press rewind to relive some of those memories. Makes me sad because I know there are so many that I forgot.

Seizing My Day said...

At 9 & 7 they are so amazing... funny, witty, smart, clever, independent (kinda) etc. and I love it... but you miss those sweet stages they quickly outgrew ... but at the time seemed they would never out grow... =) Enjoy the stage they are in now... as that too shall pass! Seize the Day! =)

Kimberly said...

Oh, it really is true. It goes by so very quickly.

Enjoy the moments!

Tiffany said...

"I wish I had spent more time playing with them on the floor and less time desperately trying yet failing to keep the house clean."

_ That is me to a "T". My goodness - for you to just survive with the sweet spirit and heart that you were still able to maintain - well, you were 100% successful!!

Good reminder though (although mine is 2.5+... still a great reminder!)

Creative Junkie said...

Sigh. So true. My eldest is going for her license in 2 months. I can't wrap my head around that. Just yesterday, I was dropping her off at preschool.

Yes, I wish I had enjoyed my kids more than trying to keep my house clean.

Cristina said...

Oh I know...those pics brought back SO many memories. I make sure to muse about my babies often, I am so afraid I'll forget. I have specific snapshots in my mind of moments I want to remember forever.

Love this.

xx

Cristina

HeartsMakeFamilies said...

Such a beautiful post. Time flies by so very fast.

LMJ said...

aawww...!! This was a read read!! I loved all the baby pics! MY baby is 4 months and I'm always thinking about how I can't wait till she's bigger!!

I'll take your advice and sabor these moments more, even if I'm sleep deprived and tired!!

This post made my day!!

christy rose said...

So true and such a sweet and excellent post!! Your babies were beautiful! :)

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Tracie said...

They are so friggin adorable! Sometimes I have these feelings too. *sigh*

Just think of all the fun we'll have with our grandbabies.

Karen said...

I think this post is great advice for many things, not just babies. We really need to take more time to live in the moment and enjoy our time, rather than hurrying on to the next thing.

Sara @ Domestically Challenged said...

So very, very true. We don't realize it until we become parents, and it does go so so fast.

Jenna said...

Your so right time when they are little goes by so very quickly that I don't think we ever fully appreciate it. Even more so with twins, because there are two babies and only 1 mommy.

Speaking of twins I am having a book giveaway today on my blog, the book is all about the twin relationship, it really is a must read. Hope you will stop by.

Six Feet Under Blog said...

Oh how cute. Dont get me started on missing when mine were babies!

A 2 Z said...

Mine are 20 and 22 now. I stayed home so that I would not miss anything. But I do remember being extremely tired. I think that's why sometimes we miss the days of innocence. I think I was in a fog most of the time....

Jen said...

True words but it is so hard to see the forest for the trees in those first few months. It is important to enjoy the moments and not to hurry it along but it is also best to remember that no matter what you did you did your best and that is all that matters.

Semi-Slacker Mom said...

So true, so true. We had that duck costume!

Dianna@KennedyAdventures said...

Aww, honey! My baby girl turned 15 this weekend! I'm not old enough to have a girl that old! Every stage of childhood has its good points--- it's really hard not to try to wish the hard parts away!

Sonora said...

I love this post. I saw it the other day and have been thinking about it since. I have really tried to take your advice and savor these moments. I know too soon it will be over. Thanks for reminding me about what is important!

shunee said...

Aww!!! that's exactly how I feel about my little pumpkins! I wish I could just hold those fat little feet one more time.Now I just make an effect to enjoy the time now as toddlers and preschooler.

I figure that if the children are alive when my husband gets home at the end of the day, I've done my job.

----Roseanne Barr



 
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