Tuesday, February 16, 2010

You win some, you lose some...such is life

I feel like I've been away for weeks but in reality it's only been a few days. And what a few days it was...

Remember in my last post I wrote that I had awesome news to share? Well, I did...have news to share, that is. No, it wasn't that I'm pregnant, although that could've been good news...if I could absolutely guarantee it would only be ONE baby this time.

In another earlier post, I had mentioned that we made an offer on our dream home. Someone else got the house....it became a bidding war and obviously we hadn't made high enough of an offer. I was bummed but Tim comforted me as he said, "Sweetie, that house was almost TOO big for us...just think how much more cleaning you would've had to do".

Silly Tim...as if I clean the house we currently live in now?! And, for the record, going from a 2000 square foot home to a 3600 square foot home would not have been a hardship for me. Just sayin'.

We chalked it up to something that just wasn't meant to be...God's plan and all that jazz.

From there, our wonderful agent showed us 2 more homes (and I say "wonderful" in every sense of the word...seriously, the fact that she could hang with our kids for more than 5 minutes without running out of the house fearing for her life is just downright amazing).

We loved those homes as well, especially the fact that they both had unusually large lot sizes. Tim envisioned building a shop out back where he could work on cars.

I imagined shoving the kids outside and saying, "Now, go play...see you in a few hours", while I got reacquainted with Oprah, Ellen and Dr Oz.

Even though we wanted to make an offer on both homes, the agent of one of them wouldn't even call or e-mail our agent back...rude!

So we made an offer on the one home and it was accepted, much to our surprise. We honestly thought the bank would laugh at our offer, even though we went $20,000 over the asking price. A 40-day escrow was arranged and we were waiting for our agent to get an appraiser and an inspector out there to write their reports.

In the meatime, we decided to do a couple drive-bys, just to check the neighborhood out at various times of the day. On the nights Tim drove by, he said everything was quiet and peaceful. We drove around there on Saturday morning...again, it was quiet and peaceful.

A little too quiet and peaceful, if you asked me. In our current neighborhood, people are always out walking their dogs, riding bikes, mowing their lawns, especially if the weather is nice. But this neighborhood was absolutely dead.

Something didn't sit right with me and I couldn't put my finger on what it was but I just had a gut feeling.

The next morning, I told Tim that I was going to do more research on that specific neighborhood, particularly the crime index reports. I had glossed over them before we went to look at the homes but nothing stood out (probably because I had only GLOSSED over them).

The further I examined in to the crime reports, everything seemed fine; however, I still couldn't shake that gut feeling. And then...

I clicked on the part where it read "sex offenders living in this zip code" and I could NOT believe my eyes. There were TWO sex offenders living in that same neighborhood....one of them lived 6 houses down on the same street and another offender lived diagonally behind the house we were buying. There was another offender who lived a couple blocks away, right by the neighborhood park and down the street from the school which the kids would attend.

My stomach turned as I read what their convictions were...the most serious one being forced sodomy of a child under the age of 14 years old.

I told Tim about it and we both agreed it was an instant deal breaker. Our agent was away for the weekend so we touched base with her yesterday morning and she completely understood. Thankfully, we were still within the 10-day period where we could break our contract without any consequences.

We ended up looking at a couple homes yesterday in OUR neighborhood. One of them was an automatic NO for many reasons but perhaps the funniest thing was when the kids were screaming in the backyard while we looked at the home. As we were about to leave, an older lady rang the door bell and explained that she was the next-door neighbor and she had heard some children screaming, which made her concerned.

Tim and I apologized for the noise. She smiled sweetly and said, "This is a very quiet neighborhood". Once we were back in our mini-van, I told Tim, "Uh, I think that was her passive/aggressive way of saying she'll raise hell if we move in there with our demon spawn".

The next home was pretty nice....large enough for our family with a suitable sized backyard. So we'll see....we're considering making an offer on it.

Needless to say, though, Tim and I are a little burnt out after all this. Valentine's Day came and went, with neither of us even noticing. I'm sure Tim was thrilled about that.

I'll be back on track again this week...I've got so much catching up to do! However, it was refreshing to not be completely attached to my computer this weekend...just spending the time hanging out with my family and really just being in the moment. I need to spend more time doing that.

Once again, it boils down to wanting it all and finding a happy medium.

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59 comments:

Buckeroomama said...

I hope you find your dream house soon. It's both exciting and exhausting --house-hunting, but when you finally get it, it's so worth it. :)

blueviolet said...

I hope you find a house that's just perfect for you! I know very well how difficult that is!

Karen & Gerard Zemek said...

Happy house hunting--what an adventure it is!

Mercy said...

Finding the perfect house is never easy, but it has to be out there. Keep looking.

Rebecca said...

$20000 OVER asking? Wow! That is scary though...

We are going to be doing this in about 1.5 years and I am petrified...thanks for sharing your experience.

HT said...

Finding your perfect home might take time, but it will be worth it! I'm so excited for you and your family and hope you will find it soon!

Lee the Hot Flash Queen said...

House hunting is fun at first, then it just sucks. Patience!! You'll find it!!

Missy (Two Little Monkeys) said...

Hang in there! House hunting is fun yet tiring. So glad you found about the sex offenders before it was too late. Hang in there and keep us posted.

Robin said...

Wow..Im so glad you went with your gut..the realtor should have to disclose those things...there are two who moved into our neighborhood also...creepy and scary..! Good luck with finding you dream home, the perfect house is just waiting for you..!

Donna said...

House hunting is exhausting. Sounds like you've got a good attitude about it all - I'm sure you'll end up in the perfect home! And thanks for the condolences, sweetie!

BigSis said...

I'm with Lee. At first house hunting seems like so much fun, then it becomes more like work. I do believe that things happen for a reason though. And, I'm sure you will get the perfect house for your family!

Jessi said...

House hunting can be such a drag at times! Sorry you haven't found the right one yet. I hope you find it soon. How scary with the sex offenders, that is just crazy!!

S Club Mama said...

good for you looking that up though! And so sorry about the old lady being so mean - I think it's mean to elbow someone out because their kids. :(

Eva Gallant said...

Funny how your gut was right on! Hope you find a great home soon!

The Girl Next Door Grows Up said...

How smart of you!!! How horrible that would have been.

I believe everything happens for a reason, so there is an even better house out there for you!!!

Morgan said...

It sounds like the market is a lot different where you live than the state I live in!

I'll be looking forward to seeing which house you pick! Do you have your house on the market?

The Mother said...

I would never have thought to check the registry.

It's a buyer's market, so you should have lots to choose from. Good luck.

Carly said...

Wow great job at running the report. Hope you find your dream home soon:)

singedwingangel said...

God has his way of letting you know in your spirit something is not quie right.. so glad you found out before you couldn't do anything about it..

Brooke said...

sorry the house didn't work out for you all, but much better to find out now.

and you'd better tell him its Valentine's week and he has 4 1/2 more days to make it special!

Jenny said...

Looking for a new house is so stressful, even without kids! I'm sorry you didn't get that first one, 3600 feet does sound awesome!

Good luck with the rest of your search, it will all work out in the end.

Amy said...

I wish you the best of luck in finding a home..

Kristina P. said...

House hungting is hard! That sex offender list is scary!

Shell said...

Good luck! We are in this same process right now and it's so hard!

MamaHen Em said...

Ugh. House hunting is so, so hard. We looked at 21 houses in 10 days when we moved into our current home. The home which we have said we will never leave simply because we don't ever want to house hunt again.

And WOW! Aren't you glad you double checked the neighborhood? It made my chest tighten just to read about who lived there. Good luck on the house hunting.

Lauren said...

I'm with you on those gut feelings. Some people think I'm loony when I talk about them, but they've always proven accurate. I would NOT live in a neighborhood where my kids would be exposed to sex offenders. Even if they never came out of the house, I still wouldn't do that.

Angela Cooper said...

Like you said, everything happens for a reason. The cleaning comment though, I think I would have been on the floor with legs up in the air cracking up. Bless his heart.

Corrie Howe said...

I'm both sorry and happy about the house you had a contract on. I don't envy you and Tim having to find a house. But I know God has one in mind for you.

shortmama said...

Finding the right home is such a tough ordeal for sure!

Samantha said...

I hope you find a "dream house" soon. I know it can be incredibly frustrating.

Liz @ Sugarplum Creations said...

Wow, where to start? Good for you for doing some research! That gut instinct comes in handy, huh? Hope you find exactly what you're looking for soon!!! We are just starting our adventure in building a house. It'll be interesting ;)

Anything Fits a Naked Man said...

Boy, do I feel your pain! My husband and I relocated last year after his promotion and we saw dozens of homes in just a few days time! It was maddening!

But, find our dream home, we did, as I'm SURE you will! Good luck, don't give up!!

I love the look of your blog, I'm so glad I found you! I'm your newest follower!

LucidLilith said...

Gut feeling is very good. I am trying to follow my gut on some things too!

Heather said...

I hope you find a house you love soon! Glad you checked out your gut instinct!

Tina... said...

move next to the evil demon lady and then kill her with kindness and lots of kids screaming...

Michelle @ Flying Giggles said...

It is a good thing you looked into the neighborhood a little more. How scary. I hope you guys find your dream house soon. I am sure when you stop looking so hard, you will find it! Enjoy yourself, this could be a fun process.

PollyBee said...

check out http://www.familywatchdog.us/ and pop in potential zip codes. It's free and is a great service. It sends me an email whenever an offender moves into my specified area.

♥Georgie♥ said...

Oh Helene....man as someone who just lost their dreamhome to someone who outbid them I feel your pain...srsly...my dream home had dual staircases but NOT pretentious dual staircases they led to separate bedrooms perfect for teenagers...I am in morning...and i am so not kidding...

sandandstarfish said...

I wish I could go house hunting with you! I LOVE doing it! I would even look at listings when I was a child.
God has a great house in store for you... He'll show you.

This Daddy said...

Good luck on finding the new house and good call about doing your own homework. Always have to do it yourself.

And I have a question for YOU. In an earlier post you talked about Tim and the dishwasher deal. Remember? Well if I bought my wife a new dishwasher do I get a free pass to do those things you talked about? What is your opinion?

Mighty M said...

When you find "the one" you'll just KNOW!

I am SO GLAD you checked out that neighborhood before it was too late!!

Jen said...

Aw, that sucks. I hope that you find your perfect house, soon.

Tracie said...

Thank God you trusted your gut on that! You'll find the right house eventually. I'm glad you were able to unplug for a few days. I've been doing some of that too. It's nice for all of us.

Nancy said...

I hope you find your dream house soon! House hunting is fun in the beginning but it sure gets stressful the longer it takes. Thank goodness you checked out the neighborhood on the other one!!! That kind of thing should be in the home disclosures.

I thought I found my dream house. We've lived here 4 years now and I can't wait to move! The housing market here sucks though and we're stuck with reclusive neighbors and a house too big to clean (LOL).

Seriously, it's too big to clean (4300), my bedroom is the size of a bowling alley (no kidding, everyone is SHOCKED when they see it). We miss our old little house (1500) and the great neighborhood that went with it.

I hope the "right" house finds you soon. Good Luck!

Sharlene said...

Honey I used to be an agent (yes me! Stop laughing!) and you know I know your general area and all the housing crap that has gone on there. Its a hard market to buy in but if you are patient and wait for your dream house, you will find it. And it won't be the one that fell through because I firmly believe God makes agents not call us back or deals fall through because they aren't the right deal. Its so good that you looked up the sex offender thing. How scary. Now I am gonna look up mine. We moved into a new neighborhood recently and the thought never crossed my mind. Luckily I do see kids outside but still, I was stupid not to look. Thank you for that reminder. Oh- and go and let your kids run around that backyard every week or so. Just to freak the old crabby lady out. :)

Zeemaid said...

wow.. good thing you did your research. I can never get a handle on your guy's system down there with escrow and all. Very confusing. I hope you guys find the perfect home soon!

Mrsbear said...

Finding a house is tough! You've got your hands full on a regular basis, hunting for a home, forget it. I'm glad you did your research though. And you're right, everything happens for a reason. About five years ago we were considering moving a couple of counties north, the neighborhood we were considering had houses that sat on an acre and up, which is rare down here. For one reason or another it never panned out, although we looked at a lot of houses, met with a realtor, even made one bid that got accepted. Now, that neighborhood is being studied by the government because there is a confirmed cancer cluster, meaning a high concentration of cancer cases, many in children. I feel awful for those people, aside from the sickness their property values have plummeted and many people are just abandoning their houses leading to a lot of crime in what used to be a lovely neighborhood. The fact that it didn't work out was a blessing in disguise.

Mama Michie (aka Michaela) said...

Wow!! Talk about a gut feeling. That's just scary! I'm glad you were able to pull out of that contract. Good luck in finding the perfect home!!

Seizing My Day said...

I would have run too! ;) Your family sounds "perfectly" chaotic... in the perfect sort of way... no matter what the crazy 'quiet' lady said! ha ha! they forget what it is like to be a mommy!
Just Jenn~ www.seizingmyday.com

Karen said...

I'm sorry it didn't work out. But it sounds like it was for the best!

Good luck with the continued search. The right house will find you.

Michelle said...

Good luck with the house hunting. I know it can be a daunting prospect. Do you have to sell your current house too or just look for the new one?

KK said...

OH I have been there. Don't give up, it took me 7 months, but I finally found the right one.

Megan said...

Yikes!!! So glad you found out when you could still cancel the contract. House hunting is so stressful - the right one will come along soon, I just know it.

Nezzy said...

I'm so glad you followed your 'gut', that old gut feelin' is seldom wrong. God has the perfect home for your precious family, in His time. Hang in there girl. Heeeeheeh...from the person who has no patience at all!!!

Have a glorious day in His sunshine!!!

Kim said...

54 freakin' comments?!! Here's one more to take up your day . . .

we tried looking for a bigger home when we knew the twins were coming, and couldn't find anything we wanted. We'd actually given up and decided we'd just have to make it work with 6 people in a 1700 sq ft house, when the perfect house for us kind of fell right into our laps. We ended up buying it without a realtor, even, and everything went smoothly.

My point? Hang in there! You just never know how it can all work out!

christy rose said...

I hope you find the perfect home for you and your family!!:)

The Lane Family said...

I have learned that when things do not work out there is always a reason and usually it is because God knows far better than us what we need. I just wish I could have a little more insight somedays :)

I cannot believe that lady came out to let you know this was a "quiet neighborhood" okay hint taken.

Tiffany said...

Wow. Two big deal-breakers there - any "neighbor" (aka - killjoy who happens to be living w/ in walking distance) who can't appreciate kids... I could never do it. To not allow my children to be children - nah.

And the sex offender one - WOW. SOOO glad you looked that up! It's my number one thing too (well, you know when we can afford another house). Nice work detective!

Semi-Slacker Mom said...

OMG! That was a close call! There are some nice houses in our hood! It's just across the country!!

I figure that if the children are alive when my husband gets home at the end of the day, I've done my job.

----Roseanne Barr



 
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