Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Perhaps you didn't hear me the first time...do NOT pick on MY child!

Well, it looks as if my "BFF" is back again. On yesterday's post, BFF commented...

"Keep denying that your daughters overweight. holy cow! keep them marshmellows coming.."

While it's difficult for me to ignore all the spelling and grammar problems within that poorly written sentence above, I'll try my best.

As I've stated here on my blog in the past, you can pick on me until your heart's content but you pick on MY CHILD...my innocent, sweet baby girl...and the claws come out.

I suppose I should be flattered that you continue coming back to my blog to read about my wonderful life with my beautiful family. However, I can't feel anything but pity for you.

Since I don't want to waste any more of my precious time calling you out yet again, I've chosen to copy/paste my response to your earlier comment, which you left a few months ago.

Now that you've gotten the attention you've been craving, although maybe not exactly the way you were hoping for, perhaps you can move on and leave me and my family alone.

If you need a recommendation for a therapist who can deal with people like you, I'd be happy to help you find someone, especially since I now know where you live.

You can thank StatCounter and Google for revealing to me your identifying information.

BTW, overweight child or not, all children deserve the privilege of a sweet treat every once in awhile.

Here's my response to BFF from back in March....

Yesterday I did a review on the 8-piece fruit and vegetable set from Curious Chef. In the review, I mentioned being happy that the kids were eating a nutritious snack and that, with these new child-friendly utensils, we'd be eating more healthfully.

Unfortunately, that one statement led an ill-informed person, who went out of his/her way to create an Open ID since I no longer accept anonymous comments, to believe that the only food I provide for my children is high-calorie junk food.

Here's the repulsive comment, which I deleted, written by "BFF"...

Well good maybe you can start feeding your overweight, what 5 year old some healthy food. Instead of fighting her brother for the last bagel for breakfast she can fight over the last banana. Shame on you for letting your child become this overweight. Have you checked out her arms in the pis you posted? Or her thighs on the beach in your header? Seriously?

You can pick on me...say what you want to say about me...think what you want to think about me...but when you pick on one of MY KIDS, that's where I draw the line.

Since "BFF" chose to hide behind a poorly chosen acronym, thus leaving me no way to personally contact him/her via e-mail, I felt compelled to address him/her here on my blog.

Will he/she come back to read this? I have a feeling the answer is yes, since this person took the time to go through my archives in order to make reference to this post.

While Bella does fall into the higher percentile in terms of her weight, she is far from the level of obesity of some other children. In fact, at her last check-up, her pediatrician was very happy with her measurements. He has stressed that the goal is NOT for her to lose weight but to maintain her weight as she hits various growth spurts, which will even her out in terms of height-weight ratio.

As far as what she eats, Bella doesn't eat any differently than her siblings. We make sure all the kids eat at least 5 servings of fruit/vegetables per day and we are careful about portion size.

None of my children sit around eating donuts, cake and candy all day long. Occasionally, they get to eat Apple Jacks for breakfast, along with a glass of milk and a piece of fruit. Last time I checked, half of a whole-grain, high-fiber bagel wasn't considered "junk" food.

Bella also gets plenty of exercise, whether it be riding bikes up to the neighborhood park or running around the backyard with her siblings. She's not a sedentary couch potato laying on the sofa for hours, while eating a bowl of chips.

"BFF" asked if I had “checked out” Bella's arms in the pictures included in yesterday's post. The answer is no….I don’t obsessively scour my children’s pictures looking for what others may consider as bodily imperfections.

However, since you asked, I looked at the following 2 pictures which were posted yesterday and her arms look absolutely fine to me.

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If you are referring to her RIGHT arm, that's not fat you see…it’s scar tissue, for your information, from an ulcerated hemangioma. The skin that is hanging down from the bend of her arm is nothing more than extra skin which was stretched-out beyond it’s elasticity when the hemangioma grew at an alarmingly fast rate.

Here’s a picture that I took recently at the park, which shows the stretched-out skin on her right arm a little more clearly.

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Since you seem to be lacking in knowledge, as well as tact and sensitivity, let me explain. Her hemangioma started out as a dime-sized spot on her arm at birth. When she was 26 days old, it had grown so quickly that it covered her entire bicep, as well as a small part of her forearm, which you can see in the picture directly below.

bella hemangioma

The following picture shows what it looked like when she was 2 months old, as it began to ulcerate…

bella hemangioma 2

From that point, it continued to ulcerate to the point where her muscle was exposed.

I won’t post the rest of the pictures because they are rather graphic but here’s a link to an online photo album, should you be interested in looking.

http://s6.photobucket.com/albums/y202/heltim/Bella/

If you even dare to think for a minute that we could have prevented this from happening, you’d be wrong, once again. On the contrary, we desperately tried to stay one step ahead at all times with the sole purpose of preventing it from getting any worse than it already was.

We were at our pediatrician’s office practically on a daily basis, including both Thanksgiving and Christmas morning, as we attempted to get the constant bleeding under control.

Our precious baby girl endured laser treatments, steroid shots directly into the ulcerated hemangioma, numerous cauterizations…she was in constant pain and spent most of her days doped up on tylenol with codeine to ease her discomfort.

I spent hours researching various treatments which might have helped and, in the end, happened to stumble upon a miracle drug that finally worked to control the bleeding.

In addition, we consulted with various out-of-town professionals, two in particular being Dr. John Reinisch and Dr. Ilona Frieden, both well-reknown surgeons specializing in children with vascular tumors.

Due to the extent of the scarring, no amount of surgery will ever fully repair the cosmetic damage caused by the hemangioma. The extra skin that sags beneath her elbow can be removed at any time if she chooses, however.

Believe it or not, cosmetic issues and physical appearance weren’t necessarily a priority when we were considering she might have lost the use of her arm after the hemangioma ulcerated down to the muscle.

And you know what? Upon several surgical consults, Bella told us she doesn’t want to undergo cosmetic surgery. She likes her arm the way it is and she’s happy with the reflection she sees of herself when she looks in the mirror.

If her desire to have surgery changes as she gets older, we’ll support her in every way possible.

What makes Bella even more special is her resilience and her lovable spirit . She’s often approached by other children who are curious about what has happened to her arm and she explains it to the best of her ability, often saying, “That’s where I was kissed by an angel”.

In your comment, you wrote how I should be ashamed of myself. No, I think YOU should be ashamed of YOURSELF for picking on an innocent child who has more courage than you ever will.

People with your attitude and ignorance are the reason why we have young teenagers starving themselves or binging and purging…all so they can exhibit how they think they’re expected to look by jerks such as yourself.

Those are the girls with low self-esteem which you should be concerned about…not a sweet, precious FIVE year old child, who happens to have a little extra baby fat on her thighs!

Please know that my issue is not the fact that you expressed your opinion and thoughts on the matter. My problem is the MANNER in which you chose to express those thoughts. You were callous, disrespectful and presumptuous.

I appreciate your concern about my daughter’s weight but it’s well under control. Now that you’ve been assured of that, perhaps your time would be better spent looking deep within yourself to figure out why you are so superficially bent on physical appearances.

I can only pray that if you have children of your own and/or work on a daily basis with young, impressionable children that you are not as judgmental or cruel to them as you have been to my daughter.

Upon reading your comment this morning, I could not stop myself from shaking with rage, after being reduced to nothing more than a heaping pile of bitter tears. I’m not ashamed to admit that I let your comment get under my skin…any caring, protective mother would have felt the same way.

I’ve stewed in anger all day over this. However, now I’m finally letting it go…I NEED to let it go.

I’ve wasted enough energy today on someone who’s so obviously shallow and not even worth a bit of the salt in my tears.






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83 comments:

Stacie said...

Bravo, Helene! How dare someone attack the weight of your BEAUTIFUL little girl. She is absolutely lovely just the way she is!

Much love to you. I know just what it is like to get my momma bear claws out at inappropriate comments.

Now, go away anonymous. No one needs you around here.

Brooke said...

as the aunt of a girl with a little meat on her bones - i'd like to say thank you helene. for sticking up for your little girl, and in the process sticking up for my princess. there is a difference in obese and what these beautiful girls are. why must we be so superficial??

zookeeperjess said...

Some people are seriously MESSED UP. UGH move on TROLL!!!!!

Nobodys Nothings said...

OMG i can't believe that asshole is still roaming around. i remember the first time they posted, and i remember your original post... and i know absolutely that your daughter is in no way overweight, of even slightly chubby. she looks like a perfectly average sized pretty little girl to me. your troll is probably a fat-n-nasty computer nerd with no friends outside of the computer. they were probably chowing down on taco bell while writing those posts, and nothing more than jealous of your gorgeous family and beautiful garden full of healthy veggies.

BFF should go away. a community full of over protective mama bears has no need for wimpy jerks who like to pick on little kids.

IASoupMama said...

Some people have no class. And that doesn't mean you or your gorgeous daughter. I am sorry that someone actually thinks it is OK to make fun of a kid. Bad, bad, bad...

KK said...

Good for you, why do people run around spewing their hate onto everyone else?

MiMi said...

Well said!! And I feel for you that you even had to address this crap. :(
Also, omagosh, your baby's arm. I got nothing for that except OUCH.
And again...
bff = asshat.

MiMi said...

Oh yeah, and what the heck is this person doing checking your little girls' thighs out so closely on your header? CREEPTASTIC.

singedwingangel said...

Next time I will loan you my flaming head kk/ Imagine how much more yiu could hve rocked this with fire shooting out of yur head roflmbo.. I don't think these imbeciles realize the mistake they are making messing with a momma and all of her momma friends.. Yeah not a wise move for anyone. If ya ask me

Kim said...

Makes me so, so mad. Don't write about BFF anymore, because my blood pressure can't handle it. Just delete the ice hole's comment and let the negativity go. Hugs and kisses to your sweet girl!

Kristina P. said...

Bravo. I can't believe how mean some people can be when given an anonymous forum.

Jen said...

You know, they say when you get the trolls to come out of your blog, it means that you have made it.

Just trying to spin a positive light on this. :)

middle child said...

Sending you love-----

Marianne said...

Honestly, I think BFF says the BS he/she says to get a rise out of people. He/she wants the attention. Even if it is the form of people telling him/her what a pathetic excuse for a human being he/she is. Narcissism at it's best. BFF probably wasn't shown enough love as a child.

Don't worry my lady, karma will get this coward.

Were you able to block their IP?

I always say to people like BFF, "May the devil have a special place saved for you in hell." :)

Love you and beautiful and brilliant Bella!

The Boob Nazi said...

People are so judgmental when it comes to other people's children. Deal with your own children and forget about what others are doing.

The Boob Nazi said...

I'm just glad your daughter doesn't read this blog. That'd be so hurtful to a child that young.

adrienzgirl said...

I am moved to tears at the beauty, class and grace you showed in this post.

All children are beautiful. Period.

The Black Kitteh said...

Why do people have to be mean? Seriously? I am so sorry that you experienced this!

Dysfunctional Mom said...

Have you heard the song "I pray for you" by Jaron and the Long Road to Love? Because this "BFF" of yours makes me want to pray for them, in the style of that song.
"I pray your brakes go out coming down a hill...."
It's good stuff.
Your BFF is a sick piece of crap.
He/she clearly has a miserable life and gets off on picking on little kids.

Heather said...

I'm so sorry, Helene. Some people can be so rude.

Natalie said...

Helene...I think you handled this fantastically, and probably even gave her WAY more of your energy than you should've. And look at all this backup you have!

Rhiannon said...

I applaud you! And I will not waste my breath saying anything bad about this horrible person. NO mother needs to defend their child!
God Bless you!

pam said...

I too had tears in my eyes as I read your post. Rude isn't even the word for this jerk! Your daughter is beautiful, as is your whole family.

xox

Chocolate Covered Daydreams said...

Bella is so very pretty. I can't stand people that think they need to give an opinion when it wasn't asked.

No matter how hurtful her comment was, don't even bother acknowledging it. It's just not worth taking up negative space. She is the one that needs to stop reading your blog and commenting. There's not a Welcome Haters sign on your blog.

Shannon said...

I've seen other comments this "BFF" person has left on other people's entries. I think this person just likes to get a rise out of people, make people go on the defensive. The best thing you can do to fight it is to just ignore it, even though it is very difficult to do.

Missy (Two Little Monkeys) said...

Damn, this woman is really starting to tick me off! What a lonely & pitiful person who has nothing else better to do than pick on a child (really, so tacky, anyone who picks on a child!)
Seriously, you handled it well! Can you contact blogger? Just curious if they can block her or something.

cristy24 said...

I went to look at the other pictures out of curiousity. I had no idea Hemangiomas could do that! There are 3 or 4 children at my daycare center that have those which is why I was curious.
I hope this person leaves you alone. I imagine that if they tried really hard they could find something more constructive to do with their time.

Cristy

Christina said...

Damn I'm sorry she came back. You, nor Bella deserve it. It's hard, but your better than that, try and let it go...xoxo

Andrea (ace1028) said...

You tell 'em, Sister!!!

Twins Squared said...

Ugh! What is wrong with some people? It makes me wonder if she does this on other blogs - just pick things apart just to get attention and to get a rise out of people. I am sorry you have to deal with her, or him, or whoever. They suck! You and your 4 beautiful kiddos rock!

Charlene said...

Sorry you are still dealing with this crap..what the hell is wrong with people. In reality it's probably some fat ass sitting on the couch stuffing his face with doughnuts while he comments on your blog. Some people are just morons!

Semi-Slacker Mom said...

Oh Helene. I'm like you, you can say what you want about me but don't mess with my babies. That would have broke my heart & made me mad as hell at the same time & I was feeling that for you. That sweet baby girl is beautiful. BFF is obviously a jealous bitch that can't spell. And now that you're getting ugly comments that means you're in the big leagues!

Christine said...

I think you need to open a can of whoop a** on your BFF.

Theta Mom said...

Helene - The sad part is, I am not surprised by this obnoxious behavior. The bigger your blog grows, so do the negative comments.

Your daughter IS healthy and beautiful and YOU know that. But I can see how this would be hurtful since the negativity is aimed at your child - I'm with you - say what you want about me but don't mess with my kid.

Hang in there mama. This too shall pass.
xo

D said...

It takes a real pure and simple coward to pick on a small child! You know girls have enough issues with body image without some asshat coming over and making negative comments. Yet remarkably enough where are you now,BFF? You had the gall to make a disgusting comment under some crappy nickname, didn't leave an email addy, or even YOUR REAL NAME,and yet no comments so far. Good job! You just proved that you can dish it out but you can't take it. For starters, permit me to school you on something. First, marshmellows are indeed fat free. They are made primarily with low fat milk and the sprinkles contain very little fat. Maybe you should do some research,and learn to use grammer effectively,BEFORE you insult Helene's daughter. Secondly, Helene has no reason to justify her daughter's appearence to you. To me Bella looks totally fine. Maybe instead of focusing on the invisable fat on her thighs or her arms you should take some time to focus on the fat in your head. By the way I'd like to invite you to my journal too. That way in case you get bored picking on a small child, your MENSA meeting lets out early or you just plain can't find Waldo you have something to do.

http://beneaththesurfaceanewbeginning.blogspot.com/

Heather@Mommy's Hiding! said...

OMG! How DARE someone talk about an innocent child like that! Seriously where do they get off? Who do they think they are? That is so completely and totally uncalled for. She is GORGEOUS and in NO WAY overweight or "fat". That is ridiculous. You said you know who this person is, is there a way to block them from your blog? Wow I'm completely and totally shocked and speechless.

I'm so sorry you have to deal with that!

Respectfully Yours said...

I am sitting here with my mouth hanging wide open. How the heck can someone take the time to post negative and disturbing comments just for the sake of being so mean. And about a little girl. I think all the mommy bloggers need to open a big can of whoop ass!!!

Now to Bella! Listen here little princess. You are the most amazing lovely young lady ever. You have endured so much and handled your little self with courage and class. Funny, when I saw you all I saw was that glorious smile and nothing else.

Helene: You are an amazing mom who does not deserve such stress. Raising children is hard enough without assholes making it harder.

God Bless you and your family

S Club Mama said...

Ok Even if your daughter was obese (which she's not - she's little for pete's sake), there are constructive ways (NOT via blog) to help a parent confront those issues. Tactful ways. Ugh people make me so mad. I'm so sorry, Helene.

mudmama said...

Oh no she didn't!!! I cannot believe the nerve and utter insensitivity. Your daughter is darling. And good for you for giving a perfect response so that you could then let it go. RRgh!!!!

Eva Gallant said...

Bella is a beauty! I can't believe the ignorance, insensitivity, and downright stupidity of BFF. Good for you for telling her off!

Jenna said...

Good for you!!! I love Bella and she has a wonderful Mommy that will always stick up for her.

Now BFF, grow up, and move on. I can't help but think that you have nothing better to do then pick on a wonderful mother and child, seriously! UGH!

Big Mama Cass said...

Ugh I just balled reading this. You are such an amazing mother! And it sounds like you have a pretty amazing daughter as well. You rock. I don't know what else to say. But wow.. you rock!

I wish I could hug you right now. Seriously. :)

Zeemaid said...

that post still brings tears to my eyes when I read it..just the thought of what she went through as a baby.

I can't believe that BFF is attacking you again. Just awful!

Diana said...

Amen and AMEN!! You GO, Helene! How dare they make such immature and thoughtless comments about that sweet adorable child! Bella is a beautiful young lady!

Blessings to you and your family!

Mama Gayle said...

Hey Helene...I am not sure if I have ever commented before but I am a follower for a few months now. I had to come out of "lurking" to comment on this subject.
I really was an overweight child (long story short: turned into and obese adult, lost 240 pounds) all my siblings were normal if not "skinny" so everyone always had a comment about me (we ate the same foods as well). It was non-stop, extremely painful and it caused me to have very bad self esteem issues... My parents always tried to "fix" me which made me feel not good enough and ugly the way I was!
I am so GLAD that you are making sure your daughter knows how beautiful she is. Don't let the BFF get you down, and please don't let them affect the way you see her, she IS just as beautiful as you think she is!!

Jovial Jess said...

Awesome Helene! Glad you have that address ;)

That arm looks painful, you certainly have a tough little lady..props to her!

Carly said...

Wow Crazy Mean People out there. It's hard to not let those people bother you,but te evil things they say will always be in the back of your mind. All whe can do is hope they get whats coming to them. What goes around comes around!!

shortmama said...

I just cant imagine how angry you must feel. I would be livid. Its a shame that people have to stoop to that level.

Elizabeth said...

Helene Im sorry you had to address this again. Some idiots have no idea.
We all think Bella is wonderful and smart and beautiful (just like her siblings).
Take care and keep enjoying summer.

Rebecca said...

Wow! This has pissed a lot of people off. I'll tell you one thing...if I ever leave a disparaging remark on someone's blog (which would never be about their kids...more likely their choice in vacation spots or shoes), I will definitely use spell check. Why make yourself look like more of an idiot? "Yeah...I'm going to write something nasty about someone's kids and then I'm going to sound like a complete illiterate fool while doing so...that'll show them!" What a turd...

PS-This is "Catty Rebecca." You should totally publish her information so we can all find her and hunt her down blog mob style!

This Daddy said...

Helene, you are a better person than I am. When something like this happens in the blog world or the real world I get put on a hyper-speed time warp back to being immature. I get nasty and ugly and foul, I pretty much make the matter worse by acting like an ass.

I gotta give you credit for taking the high road and staying mature about it.

Sorry this happened again. Dont sweat it, people are stupid. This "BFF" is just a low self esteem person herself and she is trying to bring others down.

Now go pick on Tim and be mean to him and then blog about that.

Best to you , Tim and the awesome kids you have

The Ninja said...

Bella is beautiful. And whoever BFF is, they can go and screw themselves. And, you handled this like a lady...I applaud you. I would not have been so nice.

Aging Mommy said...

Anyone looking at your family will instantly realize that your children are perfectly healthy, well cared for children and your daughter is certainly not overweight.

I understand your need to have a rant about this lady, but unfortunately I think people like this feed off the attention. I had one such commenter a while ago on my blog and I ignored her. She went away, no doubt to find someone else to prey on.

All you need to see is the joy in your daughter's eyes to know she has a happy wonderful life and is confident enough in her own skin to not want cosmetic surgery on her arm - thanks to the fact that she has a wonderful Mom and Dad who believe in her and love her for who she is. Which is as it should be.

Creative Junkie said...

Oh Helene - I'm sorry you're dealing with this again. :(

MamaHen Em said...

Are you kidding me? I cannot believe this person is still reading and came back with more mean comments. Unbelievable.

It's been said, but I'm adding to it: Bella is a BEAUTIFUL, obviously HAPPY child with an AMAZING Mama.

Stefenie said...

What a shame that there is an angry troll roaming the blogosphere chucking rotten apples at CHILDREN.

I applaud you for holding yourself together and maturely responding to their hurtful comment.

I wouldn't waste anymore time on this person. They aren't worth it.

{{{HUG}} I believe that you are a great mom who loves, cares and protects her children. Keep up the GOOD work!

Crossed Fingers said...

People like that live to make others as unhappy as they are. I'm so sorry she chose to lash out at your daughter. I was just as furious as you were when I read what she had written.

Rule #1 - If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.

The internet has made some people feel they can say & do whatever they want because they can hide behind a screen. I bet this person wouldn't DARE say that to your face because they know how RUDE and UNCALLED for it is.

Bella is a beautiful child and you can see her spirit in her pictures. Thankfully you are raising children who are beautiful on the inside as well as the outside. Who have self esteem and have mamma bear to protect them for evil people that that "person".

Can you block their IP?

melonbelly said...

Your daughter is beautiful on the outside as well as I am sure she is on the inside. I am so thankful that she has YOU for a mother! It makes me cringe what would happen if she had your BFF for one...... :(

Menopausal New Mom said...

Nicely put Helene. Sorry you had to expend so much energy into defending your sweet little girl, I hope this is the last of it. And yes, those analytic reports etc. we have access to when we want to know who is reading and commenting on our blogs come in very handy :)

Hugs to you and your lovely family,
Deb

Sarah said...

I can't believe how mean some people can be. I am so sorry that this person is saying such horrible...and untrue things. Your daughter looks like a normal, average little girl.

Tylaine said...

How unbelievably rude and tactless and inconsiderate! Seriously I'm angry for you. It's one thing to just make a mean comment but when its about your child....well that's just inexcusable. Does this person even have kids?? It's ridiculous to think you can know anyone after reading one post. It's so wrong to judge people like that, expecialy someone you don't even know. I'm so sorry you had to go through that.
You have a very beautiful and courageous daughter for going through what she did. :)

Shell said...

I wrote today about kindness in the blogworld- how we shouldn't attack people on our blogs or in comments- basic kindness is needed.

Saying anything about anyone's child is just inexcusable. I'd disregard all I wrote today and want to take someone's head off for messing with one of my kids.

LucidLilith said...

Helene: we got ya back.

Donna said...

Dam! Really? bff really has some issues, eh?

If you stop and create a profile in your head of the type of person that it would take to make such hateful remarks, are you not seeing just such a sad, sad (and friendless) person.

I mean, my lord - we can all take "constructive feedback" when it's served with love and caringness. But what in the world is the POINT of senseless rudeness and hatefulness? She/He/It must have some serious self loathing going on. Poor thing. But pity or not, no excuse for that behavior.

Please do you and us, all a favor and simpley delete her/his/its comments in the future. Truly, no good can come of them.

And fwiw, really? really? Bella looks (and sounds, from your blog posts) like a very healthy little girl. As a curvageous woman myself, one who was never, shall we say, "encouraged" to be a ballerina (LOL) as a child, all that is ever, ever needed for a child (skin and bones or not) is for her to have her own sense of value, her own self worth. She needs love. And acceptance. And encouragement.

Clearly, our little bff did NOT get those things, eh?

Well, Mommy-on! Keep on, keepin' on. You are a fantastic Mommy and Bella is just beautiful and vibrant and healthy - inside and out!

Myne Whitman said...

Some people will never learn I guess. Please keep being you and many blessings to your daughter and your whole family.

Jenny said...

Why are people so annoying? That is so rude of her to come back yet again and say something about your baby!

I hope this lady doesn't have children. I feel sorry for them.

The Mother said...

Helene, why do you let this wacko bug you so much? Anonymous opinions are worth exactly what their reputation suggests--this is an asshole who doesn't deserve this much attention. Hit delete, and remember that you have a lovely daughter who will be FINE, because she has a mom who has taught her healthy habits, right smack dab in the middle.

Mighty M said...

Your children are beautiful and MEAN PEOPLE SUCK!

CodyAnne. said...

I haven't been to your blog in a while, and was sad to see that upon my return to reading after a couple of months that BFF is still at it!

Marianne hit the nail on the head! Alas, so did The Mother. It's not easy to ignore bullies, but if you ignore someone long enough, sooner or later, they will become disinterested.

It's sad and unfortunate, but maybe another blog post dedicated to this BFF is just enough of a poker to keep the flames going for another few months.

histreasure said...

Some people are just crass..attention-seeking and mean while at it..

♥Georgie♥ said...

I am appalled that someone could leave a comment like that...oh Helene...wow just wow...you did a wonderful job at making your point I just feel so bad you even had too!
huggers
G

Megan said...

Man, I'm sorry this happened again Helene. Clearly you don't need to be reassured, but Bella is beautiful.

People are such jerks.

*LLUVIA* said...

It's sickening to read this again...not your post but the comments from last time.

Bella will face idiots like this in her life, so it's so great to see that she is a happy kid and has no complex about her arm and likes it! Bella is a amazing and strong and will thrive!
And you know, it's people like BFF who will actually make her stronger.

Neo said...

wow. i was speechless when i read the comment. it's pple like that who affect the way people see themselves. that was a very shallow and short sighted statement. U do not need to justify urself to anyone least of all this cowardly stranger. Bella is a lovely and adorable child. Please dont let anyone get u riled up...like u said not worth it. ((hugs))

Two Normal Moms said...

I just don't know what is wrong with people. Who has enough time on their hands, and low enough self esteem, to go pick on other people's children?

Your response was well written. I've said it before and I'll say it again - your kids are adorable. Sweet, adorable, normal children.

Ally

Kat @ www.TodaysCliche.com said...

Someone SEriOULSY WROTE THAT? I am beside myself. Do you really know who she is from the Stats/Google?

I'm just THRILLED to come across you... your title is delicious: "I'm Living Proof that God has a Sense of Humor". Classic. LOVE IT! I"m totally a new, loyal, follower!

Jenn Erickson said...

Helene, you handled this situation with a lot of class and tact. This "BFF" is an appalling, sad, and cowardly creature. I can only hope that they do not have children of their own. I can't imagine how damaging it would be to have a parent that has such a twisted mindset and such little regard for others. Helene, you are an amazing person and an inspiration. Your children are very lucky to have such a wonderful mom!

Capturing Smiles said...

Wow! Im honestly beside myself and speechless that someone stopped on your blog to pick on your daughter, who by the way is absolutely beautiful! Im sorry for people like that...seems some days the world is full of them and hopefully they will leave you alone in the future, good for you for fighting back! I'm the same way, mess with my kids....here comes the claws! lol!

WDIBMM said...

I cannot believe that creep is back. WTH? You know what, not worth your time....

Kate said...

That is unbelievable! You are an amazing mom.

Mimi and Tilly said...

Hi Helene, you are a wonderful mother. There's nothing else to say. Em x

Mimi and Tilly said...

Sorry I've not been by for a while. Life got in the way of my blogging and blog reading! x

Michele said...

WOW! AWESOME! You are amazing and your little girl is absolutely ADORABLE! She is perfect and sounds like she has more heart then most people. Great Job on raising such an unbelievable young girl.

I figure that if the children are alive when my husband gets home at the end of the day, I've done my job.

----Roseanne Barr



 
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