Monday, September 27, 2010

Taking a break....

I'm a slacker.  There...I've said it. 

I'm trying desperately to keep up with my blog and I am failing. 

To be honest, while I love blogging and at times it is what keeps me going in this crazy whirlwind life of mine, it is has also become a thorn in my side. 

I feel pressure to keep up with it. 

While I'm watching all my favorite tv shows, I'm thinking, "I really should be blogging right now".   When I'm playing Candyland for the 10th time in an hour with my kids, my mind is screaming, "You have so many blogs to still comment on". 

As I'm cooking dinner for my family, I'm going over the day's events in my head and piecing together a funny, entertaining blog post in my head.  While I'm listening to Cole and Bella practice their reading skills at bedtime, I'm wondering, "How much longer is this book because I really need to be blogging".

The point is I haven't been truly PRESENT in awhile.  As much as I enjoy blogging, as much as I need to blog to keep my sanity, it's costing me quality time with my family. 

Cole and Bella's 6th birthday is on Saturday and we're throwing a HUGE party for them.  I have a Super Mario Brothers and a Hannah Montana guitar cake to make....I have to get our house clean enough to the point where I won't die of embarrassment if someone opens up the laundry room door. 

Most importantly, I need to focus on these priorities and not be a million miles away, mentally. 

Blogging has been an amazing escape for me...it's a place where I can pour my heart and soul out with no repurcussions.  And it's a wonderful place to connect with other people, bloggers or not, to comfort me in knowing I'm not all alone on this adventure called motherhood.

Needless to say, I'll be taking a break from blogging this week so I can put 100% of myself into planning an incredible birthday bash for my oldest babies, while still having difficulty wrapping my brain around the fact that they are going to be 6 years old. 

Wasn't it just yesterday that I was excitedly calling and e-mailing friends and family to share the happy news that I was pregnant with twins?!

And in the time that I just wrote this, I received a call from the preschool to come get Garrett, who appears to be ill.

Life is getting in the way of my blogging....and that's okay with me, for now.  Hope you all understand.

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56 comments:

Sadia said...

Of course we understand! I think that all of us who blog as an outlet need a break now and again. I take them so often, I don't even bother announcing it any more! I just stop for a while.

Nikki @ Mommy Factor said...

I totally understand and support you for needing AND taking a break. I keep saying I'll do the same but so far haven't been brave enough. Enjoy your time off in the real world with family :) Oh and congrats on the twins

MiMi said...

I COMPLETELY understand. I have had those thoughts SO many times. It starts out as fun, but when it turns to work? Take a break!!! Good luck with the parties! If you come back soon, show us the cakes you make. :)

Nobodys Nothings said...

a blog break is something we ALL need every now and then. i wish you the best of luck with the birthday party!

Zookeeper Jess said...

I think it's a marvelous idea. I know exactly what you are saying.

Take the time and enjoy your family 100% :-) We'll miss you but we totally understand. Family is always the main priority.

MamaHen Em said...

You have just articulated precisely why my blogging has all but disappeared in the last year.

Go. Be present with your family and enjoy every. single. moment with them. It goes by much to quickly! I hope your babies have a wonderful, happy birthday!

Missy (Two Little Monkeys) said...

Been there and I know the feeling.
We all understand! Take time, enjoy life and play Candyland : )

Meathead said...

Well I think that is so selfish of you. I mean, choosing family over blogging? What about US?!

I am SO kidding.
I get it 100%

Take your time. We'll all be here :)

Teresa @ Grammy Girlfriend said...

Will miss you but look forward to you returning...I had to step away a few weeks back

Teresa @ Grammy Girlfriend said...

Will miss you but look forward to you returning...I had to step away a few weeks back

Snuggle Wasteland said...

Of course we all understand. I've felt that pressure before and it's NO FUN.

Happy Birthday to the kiddos! I can't wait to see pictures of the cakes.

purseblogger said...

Oh girl, we will always be here. Family ALWAYS comes first. I know how you are feeling. We all need a break sometimes. Have fun this week and good luck getting everything ready! xoxo

singedwingangel said...

WE understand totally hun This is second to real life and that is okay and how it should be.. we will still be here don't sweat it

Mighty M said...

That is the way it should be - enjoy your time!! :)

Charlene said...

Everyone needs a break now and then...Hope you enjoy your's and get everything done and keep your sanity all at the same time. Hope your birthday bash is awesome for the twins!

Twins Squared said...

As it should be. We had this little workshop on blogging for the womens group at our church this week and I taught the class! Funny - cause there are other blogs much better than mine. Anyway, someone asked when I had the time? My answer was just when I felt moved to do it. At first I really wanted a bunch of followers but I noticed that I was starting to feel like I had to put stuff out there and sometimes I just have to sit back. I've been getting more behind lately and I only read just a handful! I can't imagine the pressure you feel. Since school has started we've been a lot more on the go and busy - just don't have as much time for it. Or when I do it seems the funny thing I wanted to write about has passed and seems silly to write about it once your emotion is not htere anymore. Still, I love your blog. Will look forward to when you DO post.

heather@actingbalanced.com said...

Hope Garret feels better - life before blogging is a huge personal creed with me... hope the birthday parties go well too!

Brooke said...

*hugs* take care!

Carly said...

Enjoy your Break..I totally understand I have blogger Block right now...too!

varunner said...

Enjoy your break. That party sounds like it'll be lots of fun. I hope you'll share pics of the cakes at some point in the future. I'm always so impressed by those who make their own! :-)

shortmama said...

Enjoy your break! I take them more and more often these days!

Chocolate Covered Daydreams said...

I admire you for prioritizing. Blogging can wait but raising kids and spending time with them, really can't. There's no do-overs.

Hope the twins have a fun birthday!

Also hope that Garrett is feeling back to normal again soon.

Take care.

Kristina P. said...

I am sort of feeling it too. Have a nice blogcation!

Shelby said...

Take all the time you need. Family comes first! We'll be here when you get back. Good luck with the party. Sounds fun!

Crossed Fingers said...

While I'll miss you I totally understand and will look forward to whatever updates/posts you have time to throw our way.

Enjoy your kiddos and relish in all the moments you get with them.

Nancy C said...

I totally get it. I am cutting down my posting and everything else related to social media because I AM NOT PRESENT.

I only get to do this once. I'm not screwing it up.

Menopausal New Mom said...

I understand completely with what you are saying about not being "present", somedays I almost grab a pen and paper so I can take notes for my next blog post. I mean seriously, it can take over your life if you're not careful.

All I do now is read when I can, post when I can and make living my life my priority :)

heather@it'stwinsanity said...

I totally understand!

Life comes first! :)

Happy Birthday to Cole & Bella!

Karen Peterson said...

Oh, please. My mom was always busy doing other things when I was growing up and I turned out just fine.

Okay, I'm TOTALLY joking! Have a great blogcation and come back when you feel like it!

Eva Gallant said...

Throw them the best darn birthday party, and then when you feel like it, come back and post pictures of those cakes!

Rhiannon said...

totally understood! my sifu told me your order in life should be such: God, Family and then martial arts and sometimes you need to step back and get your life in order.

Jen said...

Take a break but just come back long enough so show off your cakes so that I can rub it in Jeff's face so he will make my kids cool cakes so that I can blog about it. ;)

Leslie and James said...

Of course family should always come first, and Happy Birthday to your sweet babies!

Jenny said...

Of course, I understand! I've taken breaks here and there also. It really helps to re-prioritize things.

I hope Garrett isn't really sick, poor thing :(

Good luck with the birthday party!

Flying Giggles and Lollipops said...

We all need breaks and none of us should be feeling guilt of not blogging "enough". Take your time and plan a fab party...Happy Birthday to your babies (they will always be, no matter how old they are!)

Amy W said...

Family should definitely come before blogging. No questions asked.

Beth said...

Your life should definitely take precedence over your blog! Enjoy the time off!

middle child said...

You are busy raising your kids and living your life. Don't worry about blogging. Remember, blogging is something you should do for yourself. When you have a cluttered mind, then post and get it off your chest. Or read blogs for the sheer pleasure. Please don't allow yourself to feel that blogging is something you must do. Peace and Blessings.

Jenna said...

yes of course I understand, we all need a break! Feel refreshed and enjoy it again without it feeling like a chore.

Have fun planning and cake baking!

CodyAnne. said...

Helene, no one is more important than your family! Whether you once a day, once a week, or once a month, you are still an incredible woman and a great mom, and we will still be at our computers when you return :)

Also, Super Mario birthday cake?! I'm jealous! Have a great time with your kids!

Natalie said...

I know exactly what you mean & have done it a few times. Take care of your family and take some time to enjoy yourself!

Blogging can feel a lot like work sometimes...if you need a guest post or anything, please let me know - I'd love to help you if I can!

Lori said...

Life is way too short to not be living it and enjoying all the blessings that have been put into your life. Your children will never be at this place that they want to play candy land 10 times in an hour ever again. I promise you, in a blink of an eye your children will be grown and gone from home and you will think back to these days that you are living right now and you will miss them.


I hope these days you take for yourself and your family will be wonderful, joyful memories and that you will see that this blog of yours, although it be wonderful, is just a small part of you. It doesn't matter if any of your readers understand...what matters most is if your husband and children understand.

Happy cake making and hope the birthday party is lots of fun and one that they remember always. :)

Okay back to my lurking statis...:)

Rebecca said...

Enjoy your time...life is too short. Oh, and thanks for not using the term "blogcation." That word sucks!

Twinpossible said...

Hey sweetness. I'm sure that we ALL understand how you feel, and what you mean.

I always love to write, it's my sanity saver, my stress outlet, it's always been my mental release, well before I even ever became a mother, but now, I hate that it takes some time away from my best job, and that is being mommy, but then I try and remember, if I worked a real, full-time job, I'd have much less time with my kiddos, then if I write a blog or two, take a couple hours to work every day, and then spend all of the rest of my time, with my family.

That makes me feel better about it, and I am hoping long run, to be able to help out my family, through my blogging, so I do have goals, and a purpose here. I hate seeing how my husband struggles so.

We get you Helene. Take some time out for the kids, and planning that awsome party, and be sure to take a truck load of pics, for us to see. We of course, will always be here when you return!!

Luv ya, Shelly

The Mother said...

I honestly have never figured out how young mothers with little ones ever find the time to blog.

If it feels like a chore--like you HAVE to do it--then it isn't worth it in a day filled with little ones who need you.

If, however, you're doing it for yourself, for your sanity, it is. But don't feel pressured to comment on everyone. This is supposed to be fun, not a chore.

Elizabeth said...

You are such a good Mum!
Enjoy your break and really enjoy your party!

Unknown Mami said...

I totally get it. I have had moments where I get totally preoccupied with blogging. It should be an escape, not the main event. Enjoy your family and be present for them. Your blog and bloggy friends will keep until you have time.

I want to thank you for leaving me a supportive comment during what has been a very difficult time. I am truly grateful for all the support I have received.

Bethany said...

I completely understand :) I've done the same thing multiple times-- sometimes, we just need a break! Enjoy your family!

Kim said...

Go! Be free! Enjoy life away from the computer . . . then get back here and tell us all about it!

Crystal Escobar said...

Oh I hear ya! I've felt this way many times, and I really have to take a step back and focus on whats most important. Good for you for keeping your priorities in check!

Erin said...

Helene,

I can't keep up, either, and I'm a little obsessed. I just read a hilarious post by @PrettyAllTrue (do you follow Kris? she's hilarious!) that has to do with some of these feelings. I'm gonna email it to you. You have like 4x as many followers as I do and I have no clue how you keep up. ANyway, enjoy the big 6th birthday bash, relax, and take a break. We'll be here when you get back!!!

xoxoxox

"Cottage By The Sea" said...

I totally get ya! You take all the time you need. We'll be waiting right here for you when you return. Happy birthday to those adorable little twins of yours. When you start to feel too sentimental about them being 6 so fast and where did the time go and all? Think of this. In only 10 short years they will be 16 and, well, sixteen is the throws of teenager-hood. Remember what you were like as a teenager? X2? Have fun with that darlin - I know I have. Double blessings to you!

Anastasia said...

Guilt Smilct. Don't be! You'll have more to write about later.

And Happy Birthday to your babies.

Semi-Slacker Mom said...

I could have written exactly the same post. While blogging is important to me, it's becoming more like a job & my job is my children. Take care. Hugs. SSM

Mama Dub said...

I think that we ALL understand. I too am trying to cut down my computer time. This past week when I left my computer in another town {on purpose} it was GREAT! I didn't have to worry about blogging. I even told the hubs I am cutting back A LOT! He's thrilled. I want to enjoy life and my family more. Not worry so much about documenting everything. :) Enjoy your break! And HAPPY 6TH BIRTHDAY KIDDOS!

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I figure that if the children are alive when my husband gets home at the end of the day, I've done my job.

----Roseanne Barr



 
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