Thursday, December 8, 2011

"Men are supposed to be made out of steel or something"...

Steel Magnolias.

This movie does it for me every single time.

photo courtesy of IMDb
From the beginning to the end, I cry and I laugh...and then I cry some more.  It's safe to say it's one of my all-time favorite movies.


For those of you who have never seen it, it's the story about a group of close-knit women who experience the highs and lows of life together.  It's filled with humor, sarcasm, wit and, unfortunately, sadness.  


One of the scenes, which causes me to cry a river is the funeral scene where M'Lynn (Sally Field's character) is trying to make sense of her daughter, Shelby's, death.  


At first, she begins to explain calmly, "I find it amusing. Men are supposed to be made out of steel or something. I just sat there. I just held Shelby's hand. There was no noise, no tremble, just peace. Oh god. I realize as a woman how lucky I am. I was there when that wonderful creature drifted into my life and I was there when she drifted out. It was the most precious moment of my life." 


And then, she becomes angry when one of her friends ask if she's okay.


"I'm fine!  I can jog all the way to Texas and back, but my daughter can't!  She never could!  Oh God, I am so mad, I don't know what to do!  I want to know why!  I want to know why Shelby's life is over!  I want to know how that baby will ever know how wonderful his mother was!  Will he ever know what she went through for him!  Oh God, I want to know why?  Why?  Lord, I wish I could understand!"


Now that I'm a mother myself, watching this scene is absolutely gut-wrenching simply because, through M'Lynn's words and actions, I can imagine how painful and deep this type of heartbreak and sadness must feel.  


You just want to make sense of such a tragic loss but you know deep down it'll always be something you fail to understand.  You're forced to go through the natural steps of the grieving process, although I would imagine I'd get stuck somewhere between denial and anger for quite awhile. 


Towards the end of the movie, there's a scene where Shelby's toddler son becomes frightened and runs through a crowd of people until he runs safely into the arms of his grandmother, M'Lynn.  It's such a sweet, heartfelt moment...and that's the part where I always breathe a sigh of relief, knowing that everyone will be okay, even though they're still reeling from the grief of losing a loved one.


This movie makes you FEEL...it takes you to places in your mind and your heart that you don't really want to ever go.  


I don't think any one person can watch this movie and not be affected by it somehow.




*  For this workshop, I chose the prompt, "What is it about that movie that makes you cry every. time?"


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31 comments:

Lisa said...

This is such a great movie, but I find myself unable to watch it right now because it makes me too sad.

I also fast forward when Jenny dies in Forrest Gump.

And when Mufasa dies in the Lion King.

Lisa @ Two Bears Farm said...

Oh I know what you mean about Steel Magnolias!

The ending of Toy Story 3 gets me.

Debby@Just Breathe said...

It is one of the best movies around. I remember seeing it for the first time in the theatre and was drained when I left. What a roller coaster of emotions!

Rebecca @ Unexplained X2 said...

This is an amazing movie...I love it every single time I watch it. Oh, and eventually I'm going to make Hailey watch it with me and she'll bitch/complain because it's "old," but she'll love it too.

Laura said...

I've never watched this movie start to finish but I will now, and I'm sure I'll cry like a baby! Just reading the lines you wrote made me tear up.

Stepmom gets me every.single.time!

~Laura

Tina said...

Okay, Beaches tears my heart out every time I see it. First when they are sitting on the beach and she is about to die and the second when Bette comes to pack the little girl up to take with her.
And if you haven't seen it, P.S I love you with Hillary Swank will make you laugh and cry through the entire thing. Awesome movie.
But yeah the cemetary scene of Steel Magnolia gets me and then I start to laugh through the tears when she says she wants to hit something. And chick grabs Weezer and screams, "here hit this!" Bah,ha,ha,ha....

Suzanne McClendon said...

I'm glad that I read your post today. It sounds like an amazing movie and one that I know I could not watch. They say time heals all wounds. It has been 18 years since I buried my grandma and my daughter. It doesn't. From the sound of it, this movie would make me cry enough to completely eradicate the drought here in Texas.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts today. I'm here from Mama Kat's Writer's Workshop. Have a wonderful day!

JDaniel4's Mom said...

This sounds like a great one. I don't know how I missed it.

Rhiannon said...

love this movie! haha

and thanks for making me cry, gosh!

someone i know just lost her son on Monday, and i was trying to explain the feeling that you just described

ok im going back to work now... lol

melissa78 said...

My ALL TIME favorite movie!!! I cry EVERYTIME I watch it, I mean I seriously bawl my eyes out!!! Another good one is Simon Birch, TRY not to cry!!!!!

Barbara said...

This movie also makes me cry from beginning to end, especially because I know what is going to happen. Just reading that speech at the end made me tear up!

Sheila said...

I love this movie too and know exactly what you mean!

Jackie said...

Yes, this is definitely another movie that makes me cry. And that funeral scene is what gets me the most. It always breaks my heart.

Emmy said...

I have never seen it! Going to have to watch it for sure.
And something's can never really be understood unless you've experienced it

Nezzy said...

It's hard to beat a movie like that alright!!!

I felt that way with me Special Ed class. I figured if everyone was upright and no one was bleedin' at the end of the day...it was a good day! Heeehehehe!

God bless ya and have a glorious day!!!

irishtwinsmommababybook said...

Oh my goodness! My favorite movie of all time too-- and reading that made me tear up ......

Love that movie. So much.

We were meant to be friends. :)

Jackie said...

Blush & Bashful, my colors are blush and bashful.

Shelby, your colors are pink & pink!

Love that movie!!

Eva Gallant said...

I try to stay away from movies that make me cry. I feel there's enough in life to cry about without adding to it. I want to laugh my ass off when I go to a movie.

Singedwingangel said...

This is absolutely my favorite movie of all time. EVER. My hubby calls it Metal Daisies. being the smart alec he is.. I love where she grabs weezer adn says HER hit Weeza half of chiqapin parrish would give their eye teeth to take a whack at Weezer. We'll sell TShirts that say I hit Weezer Boudreau .. Here M'Lynn Hit her, knock her lights out... and they all bust out laughing.. through the tears..

Chocolate Covered Daydreams said...

I've never seen it but maybe I will. Then again, I'm an emotional buffoo lately so maybe not. Beaches gets me every time!

edshunnybunny said...

Steel Magnolias is one of my all-time favorites. I could watch it over and over (and have).

Evonne said...

I absolutely love Steel Magnolias and yes, I cry every time. It's a Wonderful Like also makes me bawl like a baby. Every year.

Missy said...

It is one of my favorite movies of all time - but it's been forever since I've watched it! Thanks for reminding me how good it is.

S. Stauss said...

Oh man. That funeral scene makes me cry, too. I even teared up a little bit just reading your post. Love it.

Visiting from Mama Kat's.

Sela Toki said...

I have to watch this again. Watched eons ago when it first came out and never watched again. It is one of those movies that moves me. Sally Field is one of my favorite actresses.

myinnerchick.com said...

--love Steel Magnolias.

And Step Mom, Beaches, Term of Endearment, The Mirror Has Two Faces, In Her Shoes...Etc...

So many good Chick Flicks out there... xx

myinnerchick.com said...

--love Steel Magnolias.

And Step Mom, Beaches, Term of Endearment, The Mirror Has Two Faces, In Her Shoes...Etc...

So many good Chick Flicks out there... xx

Shell said...

Oh, this one makes me cry every time!

Patty Ann said...

I agree with you, that is a great movie!! I makes me cry too.

Karen Peterson said...

I almost couldn't read the dialogue from that movie without getting all weepy. That one gets me every time, too. So beautiful and heartbreaking, and such a great look at the importance of relationships between women, too. Because what I love most about that scene is where M'Lynn screams out that she just wants to hit something until she feels better and then, in a moment where no one knows what to do, Clairee grabs Ouisa and says, "Here! Hit this!"

It wasn't about being funny and taking away from the gravity of the situation. It was about a friend finding a way to help another friend in a real bad time.

Kristin @ What She Said said...

I love Steel Magnolias. And that scene with M'Lynn after the funeral got to me even before I had a baby. But now that I have my own daughter? Absolutely gut-wrenching. I cried just reading it now. Sally Field's best work, IMO.

You're so right when you say this movie makes you FEEL. I couldn't have said it better myself.

I figure that if the children are alive when my husband gets home at the end of the day, I've done my job.

----Roseanne Barr



 
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