Monday, January 16, 2012

The social life of a 7-year old girl...

I met Bella outside her classroom the other day after school.  She and another little girl in her class were chatting about the day's events.

As they bid one another farewell, the little girl shouted to Bella, "Call me!"

I glanced at Bella and asked, "Uh, did she just tell you to call her?"

Bella nodded her head.  "Yeah, she gave me her phone number.  She wants me to call her tonight."

"But you just spent an entire day with her at school and I'm assuming you sat by her at lunch and played together at recess.  What on earth could you two have to discuss that you haven't already talked about," I grilled her.

With her signature rolling of the eyes, she answered, "We have lots to talk about."

Oh, quickly you forget what it's like to be a young girl in the midst of fitting into the social scene at the local elementary school.

With a huge sigh, I left it at that and figured she'd probably space out and completely forget to call her friend.

But, of course, she didn't.  Because this is Bella we're talking about, after all, and she can still remember the flavor cake I made for her 3rd birthday party.  This child has the memory of an elephant.

That evening, after dinner, Bella grabbed the phone and asked me to dial the girl's number.

I teased, "The rule should be that if you can't even dial your friend's number then you shouldn't be using the phone."

Her voice riddled with obvious annoyance, she huffed, "Mommy, come on!  Please dial her number for me."

"Let's make sure you have proper phone etiquette before it gets potentially embarrassing.  When her mom or dad answer the phone, you say 'Hi, may I please speak to Natalie?  This is Bella, her friend from school'.  You don't say 'Let me talk to Natalie' or 'Is Natalie there'.  Be polite.  Don't yell into the phone.  And don't spit into the phone, for the love of God," I explained.

"Spit into the phone!" she repeated.  "What's the big's not like the spit is going to land on her through the phone!"

"Yeah," I said.  "But I might be the next one to use that phone and I don't want YOUR spit all over MY face."

Another signature eye roll and another "Mommy, come on!"

She was growing impatient with me.  I do love to have my fun.

Once I dialed the number for her and assured that she was politely requesting her friend and identifying herself as the caller, I nodded my head, giving Bella permission to take the phone with her to the top of the staircase where she wouldn't be bothered by the excessive noise coming from her 3 obnoxious brothers.

After a few minutes of wondering what the hell these girls could be discussing that simply could not wait until the next day, I decided to spy and heard Bella saying, "OMG, I know...Totally...Oh, I know...Yeah...  Whatever... OMG, she did?...Yeah, I know...OMG!"

Pause for a few seconds of silence.  You know, let her friend get in some more words here and there.

And then, again, "OMG.  I totally can't believe that.  Tomorrow, let's just tell her that she can't play with us if she's not going to be nice."

Uh-oh, is there drama going on in the 2nd grade....again?   Of course there is.

She was quiet for a minute or two.

Then, "Okay....yeah.....uh-huh....I know.  Okay....yeah, see you tomorrow."

Bella handed the phone back to me and I had to ask, "Soooo....what's going on?  Any drama to tell your mama?"

She shook her head and answered, "No, I've got it covered."

"Oh, please, just tell me," I begged.  Because I don't have enough drama in my life after watching The Bachelor and Keeping Up With the Kardashians.

Letting out a irritated sigh, she explained, "Well, we were having problems with a girl in our class being mean to us at recess. So Natalie and I just, like, decided to ignore her.  That's all."

"Oh, I see.  Sounds like you have it all under control, my little friend.  And I'm so proud of you for handling it the way you did.  Sometimes just ignoring a mean person is the best way to handle it.  Don't let them get under your skin, you know."

"Mommy, don't worry about me so much," she assured me.  "It was just one little thing.  No big deal."

The very next night, she was back on the phone again with this same little girl.

Only this time, they were discussing little brothers and how gross they are.

Ah, to be 7 years old again.

Then again, no thanks. Registered & Protected


Lisa @ Two Bears Farm said...

It starts that early?!? Sob.

Deputy's Wife said...

At least she didn't give out your cell phone number to all of her best friends...and by bff I mean anyone under the age of 10.

GypsyFox said...

hahahaha!! I just love this post!! sounds like my daughter, only she's 5, but her friend (who's 7) comes over all the time & they have these sort of discussions! LOL

Eva Gallant said...

That Bella! She's a piece of work!

Xazmin said...

I do remember the days. However it seems like the drama, and the endless phone calls are starting at a younger age!

I haven't been by forever - I hope you and your family are doing well!

Jenny said...

Funny! I love listening in on Abby's phone conversations with her cousins. They are usually planning some wonderful event. LOL!

Teri M said... thanks. :)

Marcia (123 blog) said...

Oh my word, too cute!!!

I see glimpses of a teenage Kendra too when she talks on my cell phone... and honestly, it scares me!

Cute but the drama that awaits.........

Sorta Southern Single Mom said...

AH the joys of girlhood. My Girl is 7 and My Boy 9. M dad (I'm actually thankful for this) took it upon himself to start versing My Boy in the ways of women this summer. They must have had some conversation, because at "Meet the Teacher" The Girl ran into one of her friends, much hugging and squealing and "who got who" ensued. My dad looked at The Boy and said, "See what I mean" and The Boy just shook his head and nodded. I about died laughing!

Missy said...

Funny, funny, funny. I love her face on the call. And the "OMGs"!

Shell said...

I can't believe it starts this early

irishtwinsmommababybook said...

Soooo cute!!! But to remind you ... I had the phone connected to my ear starting in 2nd grade. Grandparents would have to do emergency break throughs since call waiting was for the rich! :)

BTW, I'm linking to you today about your pet death story and tips. :)

Cascia Talbert said...

That is so cute! I remember being a young girl like that too. Tons of drama in the 2nd grade.

DearHelenHartman said...

Too cute. I can't believe you got snaps of her talking. Long before blogs my son used to leave for school every day and remind me on his way out: Don't tell your friends cute stories about me in your emails. Enjoyed my visit to your blog.

Heather said...

Hilarious! She sounds like she has the right attitude towards mean girls.

Emmy said...

Oh the drama! And yes, I might adopt that rule, you can't dial, you not need to be on the phone :)

MandyE (Twin Trials and Triumphs) said...

I half-hesitated to read this post...knowing it would transport me back to being 7...and give me a sneak peek of what's awaiting me in 4 short years. :)

I'll stick to my "she got the pink plate" drama for now. HA!

Sara @ Domestically Challenged said...

Too cute! Yeah, they do start early, don't they? I am sort of glad I have boys now!

Mercy D'souza said...

So cute. I can already see that my elder daughter will be a phone hog when she gets older, cause she likes to pick up the phone, hit a button or two, and talk. She's only 2 1/2. And when I ask who she was talking to the response is always "Minnie and Micky". At least it is still innocent.

sbswtp said...

omg... so cute!!!!

Karen Peterson said...

That is so cute!

I remember when I was around 7 and making my very first phone call to a friend. The number was something like 597-4832. I was so stressed out when I stared at the phone and couldn't find the -.

By Word of Mouth Musings said...

OMGawsh, that is too much drama and they are so little ... at least they sound as tho they have it all figured out!

Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell said...

Love that she's got a friend with whom she can work out these social situations!

Hope she left the phone spit-free for ya!

Nezzy said...

You most certainly have the makins of your own little 'Social Butterfly' there. I know...mine is 33! Heeehehehe!

What a little doll that Bella is and so very wise sweetie, I'm sure you're proud as punch!!!

God bless and have a fabulous day!!!

(I wipe our phones daily with disinfectant wipes...ya never know...'Just sayin'!!!)

Samantha said...

That's so cute :) Bree, at four years old, already likes to call people...I imagine we'll be having similar situations soon.

Lisa said...

I love this. I love that she's 7 and doing it. :)

Jen said...

Ha! Oh the things that I have to look forward.

Great post.

Twins Squared said...

Cute - yes, my girls use the phone now and then too. I remember last year going through the same phone etiquette hands-on lessons! :) I couldn't believe it but last week after the Wizards of Waverly Place finale Mackenzie immediately ran to the phone and called up her two best friends to discuss the ending! What? Seriously?

Shelly - Tropical Mum said...

And that's why I'm glad to have boys, they don't like to talk on the phone as much as girls. When I was 15, my folks installed an additional phone line, because I could talk on the phone for hours and they wanted to have use of their telephone once in a while.

Luckily I curbed my phone habit in adulthood.

Brad Jenkins said...

You should buy an old rotary phone and let her try to dial that. :-)

MiMi said...

Holy crap. That's early!!

HoneyDame said...

Oh Lord!!!! happy New Year Helene....grateful for your blog and family for this new year...As always, the spawns are "delivering" again this year. I know I was such a nuisance at 7years old. Bella is such an awesome and mature 7yr-old....You are blessed.

Kimberly said...

I die.
I can remember those days of spending endless hours on the phone with friends that i saw all day at school. What's with that?
She's a doll and is growing up way too fast.

Sela Toki said...

Sounds like Bella there could handle her own problems in Elementary. No need to worry over her. LOL. So funny. Sometimes we forget how it felt to be seven. Our children will always remind us though.

MommaKiss said...

I think that this is incredibly awesome. I looooooved those long phone calls about nothing. Now? Forget it! I hate the phone! Not to mention, getting together to ignore a mean girl? That's very mature of her.

last - is she topless? Just a random observation.

I figure that if the children are alive when my husband gets home at the end of the day, I've done my job.

----Roseanne Barr

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